How has this week gone for you? Here at Jones Towers we’ve been off work (in a lovely way) more than we’ve been at work. A two day working week? Ooo, it was a struggle! 🙂
Indeed coming back to work wasn’t as tricky as usual. Perhaps the lack of a commute nor having to hustle the kids through the school run keeps us all a little calmer. That said, I have been finding things somehow more frustrating. I am hoping it’s just a momentary episode of Grumpy Dad Syndrome rather than a byproduct of zero Lynn time. It’s the little things like you just do all the laundry and what feels like a moment later, the washing basket is a third full. First world problems, eh? 🙂
On a more positive note, I did have a good long chatter with two folk from Chams via Skype and the open conversation we had really helps. Perhaps that’s a large chunk of it – at least for me – is that there is a place where I can be all of me. There’s no mask or heavy lifting in pretending, I can actually let my guard down.
Oddly enough, I think not being in the closet works out best in the long term. I mean, as much as I’m dressed in Richard mode 100% of the time (okay, 99% due to showers and sleeping 🙂 ), I don’t have to hide starting a conference call with T friends. Plus, the Ever Lovely Mrs J talk about various things and sometimes it’s T-ish stuff. Maybe things either of us would like makeup or clothing wise, or what transgender issues there are in the news.
We didn’t get here overnight and I think it’s been a long – and amazing – journey to get here. Where things will go next, I don’t know.
So, I guess for anyone who’s feeling trapped at home and unable to talk with T friends or dress, maybe now is the time to talk to your partner about it. Sure, it’s scary, but the idea of hiding and keeping that secret forever seems far worse.
Maybe pick an afternoon when you’re both free. What about a letter or go on a walk? However you do it, if you can say you’d like to be honest and share something with them. Say that you’ll respect their views, their boundaries, and know that this will take time.