The part timer’s dilemma

In last night’s Chams call we spoke about doing enough. Or more accurately, the dilemma of the person the closet and the Catch 22 of wanting to help move things on and yet, not be too out, if that makes sense. On the one hand, I’m okay with my trans side and I sort of feel mostly unworried about myself if someone from work or my family found out. However, while I’m not so fussed, I am concerned by the effect it would have on my family. I certainly don’t want to embarrass our two teens and while I might be over it, I don’t want anyone judging the Ever Lovely Mrs J because of who she married. As with […]

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Conversations with strangers

Hi, A handful of weeks ago – although honestly, with this COVID19 non time I seem to be in, it could’ve been this morning 😉 – an email popped in from the Get in Touch form on this blog. It was from a volunteer from talleyapp.com and they were looking for another guest co-host on their weekly call. This one happened to be about LGBTQ+ History Month, and so I said I was interested. I’m someone’s worried about these online things – perhaps ironic given my job and that I blog on here too – as online, I feel my voice very much does who I am. A silly fear given my photos on here may well do that, but […]

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Gardens not roads

Hi, With the half term holiday a week behind me, it’s finally Friday night. There’s mutterings about the kids going back to school soon and I’ll guess we’ll see as things develop. One of the things I see a fair few times at work, is the metaphor of a road as change. Namely, a twisty turny journey through a clipart icon forest from car-at-the-start to the smiling sunshine at the end. I have an issue with this, particularly when it comes to change or improvement. 🙂 For me, a road suggests we complete the journey and reach our destination. So, everything is all sorted now, yeah? No need to do anything else, we can kick back and bask in the […]

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The shadows of statues

Hi, In a small market town not so far away, there are plans to install a statue. Last year we saw a number of slave owner figures pulled down and cast aside. I must confess to a wry smile on seeing one being tipped into a river. The new statue is one of Margaret Thatcher and she – along with Sir Isaac Newton – certainly made their mark on history of the town. Mrs Thatcher was the first female prime minister, had multiple election victories, etc, and is also very divisive figure in the UK. The impact of privatisation, loss of the coal mines, and other social rulings have left deep scars that lurk within British society. Some proposed, some […]

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A look back: January

Hi, With the ever decreasing temperature, snow, and rain, shall we take a moment to ignore the cold and chill in another sense? 🙂 In last week’s post I mentioned I’d had a look through the photo archives. It seems age and weight gain help soften one’s features, even if you lose eye shape definition 😉 Outfit 20 was a new top bought in the sales and in rather linng the coloured pattern. To think, COVID19 was working its way into the population and we’d yet to really react to the situation. In 19 that’s a top donated by the Ever Lovely Mrs J and I think I was aiming for work smart. A much cherished rose dress appears in […]

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