From red to black

Hi, There’s an article on the BBC’s website on their long read section titled How Skiving Made Me a Better Parent. Sure, it starts off with that story, but it goes into other personal stories from parents, singletons, and working folk. The opening line about self-care is something I think we Trans folk need to keep an eye on. It is, as the article suggests for other people, somewhat of a juggling act. I don’t think it’s an either/or situation when it comes to self-care, but – and like much in life – more a scale or continuum. I think it can help to look at your needs as mostly being met rather than yes/no. The black and white thinking […]

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Helping in little ways

Hi, After a week or two of zero trans related activity, two things come along at once. If it helps, feel free to imagine a pair of Clapham omnibus rolling in. Tickets ready? Ding ding! 🙂 Bus 1 Earlier in the week, it was time for a training event in Nottingham. I’d arranged it some time ago and managed to squeeze it in my lunch hour. I try not to swing the lead too much when I’m at work. I may not have the best record for timekeeping, but I like to think I put my all in when I’m in. Well, that’s my excuse and I’m sticking to it! 😉 I called just before setting off to make sure everything […]

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Hair raising

Hi, I was out at Chams last night and we had a visit from the fab Trendco team: Nicola and Steph. TrendCo, in case you don’t know, are our friendly neighbourhood wig experts. Chams was fairly busy, so there was a fair bit of interest in the wigs brought in. For me, a good wig is more than something that works for your face, or your outfit. It becomes, at least for me, a part of my identity. My current do is darker than my natural hair colour. While I’ve tried lighter colours, I find myself coming back to chestnut colours time and again. I’ve done long and medium hair, but collar length seems to be working for me. At […]

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“Like a lawn that’s seen better days…”

Hair loss. Now, what did Billy Connolly say about these? With the weather slowly turning to Spring, I’m finding I’m no longer sporting the all-important cosy hat. Okay, not a literal cosy but perhaps not far from it. 🙂 Much as it’s nice to feel the sun on my face, I’m sometimes conscious of the feeling of the wind through my lack of hair. You see *ahem* back in the day, I had long hair. Sure, it was a faff and meant a bit of upkeep, but it was very much part of who I was. Even when I had it cut, that felt more me than if I look at the buzzcut I have now. On bad days it […]

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Recharging

Hi, Earlier today I was out at lunch, walking through the leafy suburb of West Bridgford. Given that it was Chameleons last night (woo!), I make the short journey over in the car to pay the group’s money into the bank. Not that the walk lets me people watch and chance to pop into my favourite fancy sandwich shop. I should add this is *after* I’ve paid the money in, not before. 😉 As I walked back I stopped by a jewelry shop to pick something up for the Ever Lovely Mrs J. Give it a few weeks and we’ll have been married 20 years. I don’t say this as a brag, but with thanks and gratitude. I’m thankful for […]

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