When your label drops off

Hi, Earlier this month I posted about having a spot of bother in getting off to sleep…. and that was before this week’s heatwave. Still, having the air-con on a comfortable 19 made last night’s trip (in bloke mode) to Chameleons much more tolerable. Anywho, one of the things my mind was doing, was going over what I might write for a presentation in a few months. No, not work-related, but transgender outreach kinda thing. It’s not so much that I don’t know how to start it and I’ve got a brief from the organisation on what they want. It’s more… it’s more that I’m struggling a bit with the identity of saying I’m trans*. BTW, there’s a rather good […]

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Just for fun

Hi, The other day the Every Lovely Mrs J sent me a link around How to be an Ally to Trans People (link here if you’re curious), bless her. We had a bit of a chat – and a few laughs about the training we’d had over the years – some good, some great, some that *ahem* might need a spot of improvement. Now, occasionally I get to do a bit of Q&A around what it can mean to be Trans*. Through Chameleons, I’ve had just under a dozen or so training opportunities with various organisations in and around Nottingham. Now, not only does this get me out a bit (which is cool in my book), but it brings funds […]

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The roller coaster

Hi, A few months ago I had the good fortune to go to a training event at work. It was about learning to accept change, and also to help others – including yourself – cope with that. We covered something called the Kubler-Ross Cycle. Sometimes it’s called the Grief Cycle. Not because changes at work only gives you grief, but it’s a process we can go through during grief itself. It looks a bit like this, although a quick check via your favour search engine will find better diagrams. I sat in the classroom, made notes, and – as ever – wondered how it affected people at work or who’d been bereaved. It wasn’t until three new people joined us at […]

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The Why Factor

Hi, A couple of weeks ago when TrendCo came to see us, Steph asked me what do I get out of coming to the Chameleons and dressing as Lynn? That’s quite a question, and one I’m not sure I fully answered back then. To Steph and Nicola, I said being in bloke mode most of the time was akin to being at work, and getting to be Lynn, or cross dress if you will, was like a holiday. It’s not that you don’t like work, but a holiday is more chance to switch off. I’m not 100% happy with that, so I guess here’s a chance to try again. The easy part to answer is why come to Chameleons. At […]

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“I have a really bad feeling about this.”

Hi, This week has been somewhat of a strange journey. The Good, the Bad, the Average and Unique, as a favourite band of mine once sang. Let’s start with the good stuff and end of a high, eh? The Good… I was so glad to see the rain today. Down it came, in sheets and torrents, spilling through flooded gutters and pooling in patterned puddles, that danced under the droplets. And yes, down came the temperature and the cloying heat that had hung about Nottingham. Hot weather, nice for lazing around in, bad news for trans folk and folk at work. Outside for a change Thursday night was a night out to Chameleons and it was bordering on too warm. […]

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