The other day the Every Lovely Mrs J sent me a link around How to be an Ally to Trans People (link here if you’re curious), bless her. We had a bit of a chat – and a few laughs about the training we’d had over the years – some good, some great, some that *ahem* might need a spot of improvement.
Now, occasionally I get to do a bit of Q&A around what it can mean to be Trans*. Through Chameleons, I’ve had just under a dozen or so training opportunities with various organisations in and around Nottingham. Now, not only does this get me out a bit (which is cool in my book), but it brings funds into the group, and lets me fly the flag a little. Sure, I’m pushing on an open door, but people are genuinely curious and I think that’s great. Much as there are occasional steps backwards – not mentioning a certain bigot coming to the UK this week – as a rule, things are improving.
For kicks & giggles, what if we twisted the not-so-PC questions that we T folk sometimes hear? I mean, what about the idea of an event to celebrate being straight as per the news this week? What if we ran the following questions at a seminar as people walked in?
- When did you decide you were cis & straight? Are you sure it’s not just a phase?
- Are they real? [points to top] I mean, they look pretty real. Can I touch one?
- So, what’s in your – you know – underwear? [waves hands around the groin area] Do you think you’ll keep things as they are?
- Does having your family jewels loose hurt? Wouldn’t you be better tucking them away? I mean you don’t want them to flop around in your trousers right?
- Is this a bit like doing drag then?
- Who helped you with your makeup this morning? It looks pretty good.
- Is that your own hair? You didn’t buy it then? It looks very real.
- How long did it take you to grow a beard? Do you think it’ll get fuller as you leave it?
Some of those are a bit near the knuckle, so treading carefully might be a good idea. 🙂 I’m not sure I’m quite brave enough to take the above approach – it is meant in jest – but it does seem like a lot of fun. But, maybe when you’ve been asked the Trans equivalent of those, maybe it’s more tired than amusing. I hope that’s not the case.
Still, I think when used appropriately, maybe a bit of humour can be used to break the ice and hopefully change some views too.