The part timer’s dilemma

In last night’s Chams call we spoke about doing enough. Or more accurately, the dilemma of the person the closet and the Catch 22 of wanting to help move things on and yet, not be too out, if that makes sense. On the one hand, I’m okay with my trans side and I sort of feel mostly unworried about myself if someone from work or my family found out. However, while I’m not so fussed, I am concerned by the effect it would have on my family. I certainly don’t want to embarrass our two teens and while I might be over it, I don’t want anyone judging the Ever Lovely Mrs J because of who she married. As with […]

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Quid pro quo, Doctor

Hi, A long time ago, in a cineplex, not so far away, I – a late teen – sat in the audience watching Silence of the Lambs. Thrilled and occasionally horrified, it’s quite a ride as a film. For me, it’s the performances of the actors rather than any effects. Foster’s performance as Clarice: her wide eyed fear, her vulnerability, and also strength in, quite frankly, an insane situation. Likewise, Hopkins’s turn as Lecter: the quiet, cerebral menace, and then… well, the demonic glee towards the end. There’s a reboot coming to TV called Clarice and like older subject matter, through the lens of post MeToo, Black Lives Matter, and/or the transgender tipping point, things are more complex, or occasionally […]

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To be okay

Hi, With the change of the calendar it’s now LGBTQ+ History Month. I’m seeing emails and a few folk with workplace backdrops advertising their support around LGBTQ+ colleagues. IMO, this is a good thing. I am… slightly torn on writing this post. I should say that this is absolutely not to knock the hard work anyone puts in to help raise awareness and foster a more inclusive community. Given the year just gone and some of the vocal minorities who want to push trans folk…. well, out of sight frankly, I think the help is very much needed. What I wanted to say is that looking back at history can be hard. My formative years were the 80s and last […]

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The shadows of statues

Hi, In a small market town not so far away, there are plans to install a statue. Last year we saw a number of slave owner figures pulled down and cast aside. I must confess to a wry smile on seeing one being tipped into a river. The new statue is one of Margaret Thatcher and she – along with Sir Isaac Newton – certainly made their mark on history of the town. Mrs Thatcher was the first female prime minister, had multiple election victories, etc, and is also very divisive figure in the UK. The impact of privatisation, loss of the coal mines, and other social rulings have left deep scars that lurk within British society. Some proposed, some […]

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Giving back

Hi, No midweek post last Wednesday as I was flagging somewhat After the very pleasant break over Xmas, it’s taken me a while to adjust to being in bed before midnight and up before nine. It seems the Jones Collective are quite the night owls 🙂 As much as the mooring sun is beautiful and the dimming greyness of a winter afternoon is a little bleak, then evening is when I switch on. Sure, there’s the post 8pm dip – perhaps due to a late tea – but I have to thing myself and the family, that we need to be up in the morning. For me to be creative, I need to be more rested than I am. It’s […]

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