From red to black

Hi, There’s an article on the BBC’s website on their long read section titled How Skiving Made Me a Better Parent. Sure, it starts off with that story, but it goes into other personal stories from parents, singletons, and working folk. The opening line about self-care is something I think we Trans folk need to keep an eye on. It is, as the article suggests for other people, somewhat of a juggling act. I don’t think it’s an either/or situation when it comes to self-care, but – and like much in life – more a scale or continuum. I think it can help to look at your needs as mostly being met rather than yes/no. The black and white thinking […]

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A little respect

Hi, The other day I was browsing Reddit and I happened to hit on a re captioned 60s comic image, or as the cool kids are saying these days: a meme. 😉 The image to your right isn’t it, but one I’ve tweaked as it feels a bit more trans positive. The other was one of those dramatic head-in-your-hands poses… oh, and 50 underwear which I felt might tip us towards the racy side of things and that’s not where I’m headed with this. Like a lot of things in life there’s a certain level of randomness – or synchronicity – about blogging. So it was that an article floated by about certain political parties trying to ‘protect children’ from […]

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This is not the group you are looking for.
You may go about your business.

Hi, The other week an email arrived in the Chameleons inbox. It wasn’t from a trans person, someone related to some who’s trans, nor a training enquiry. It was from someone who identified as an Admirer. For those who’ve not heard the term before, in general, Admirers are usually men and they like transgender people: generally male to female, but it can be the other way around too. The guy was respectful and it’s probably the second email that the group’s received since I’ve been handling the inbox. I don’t know if Admirer folk are quite rare, or that they get the vibe – correctly – that Chams is a social & support group for trans people and their family. […]

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“Boy or girl?”
Are they the only choices?

Hi, It’s been said about buses that you wait for ages and then two come along at once. So it seems with training requests at Chameleons. Nothing for a few months and now, there’s three on the go. Not that I am complaining, I must add. It’s a chance to get out, try and help out would-be allies, and – if we’re lucky – top up the group’s funds a little. Balancing it all with privacy and work is the tricky part. Luckily, Val has offered to help with one of the events, bless her. I think that education is key when it comes to talking about transgender matters. It’s not just the stuff about terminology – which frankly, confuses […]

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A fistful of win

Hi, Last night was a meeting at Chams and through some good luck, I was fairly early. Unusually it was quite a quiet event given the high attendance last time. So it goes sometimes! As I got changed I had to go back to my you-need-to-cut-down corset. I think one too many ice creams haven’t helped and despite trying to, well, cut down a bit, I feel I’m not losing the weight yet. Must try harder. Still, at least my bloke jeans aren’t too snug, so maybe things are just going slowly. I don’t know about you, but I have some goto cosmetics that I love to use. As part of that learning process, I’ve bought a few things that […]

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