Seeking pretty, not plain

Hi, Well, I think I can safely say it’s been a rather strange week. Thank you to those of you who offered kind words of support: it’s helped. ❤️ It has been a week away from work, but not time off in a holiday sense. But, hey, worker’s rights for sick pay and not being on a zero hour gig are reasons to be cheerful. I’m frustrated in that I am not quite there yet in terms of recovery. Cross with myself that this lethargy seems to have dragged on. It’s certainly made itself known this last two weeks and may have been lurking in the background from Christmas. The good news is that it’s just me and numerous COVID […]

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Neshinistas

Hi, I feel it’s time to be honest with you all and come out. I am nesh and proud of it. 🙂 Big up the nesh massive and unfurl the fluffy, rainbow blanket of warmth! Yes, I have a propensity to feeling the cold. As much as I like to be wrapped up and cosy (hello hygge ❤️ ‘hoo-gurr‘), frustratingly I’m not good in hot weather. You’d think that topping up the warmth batteries in summer would help, but it seems not to work like that. So, the eagle eyed amongst you will have noticed no midweek post. I felt of the mindset that if you don’t have anything nice to say… It was a case that what I might […]

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Reset, recharged, recovering

Hi, Well, it certainly helped to get back into the swing of things. After a bit too long in cisville, having time with like-minded folk certainly helped recharge my batteries. I think it’s easy to forget what a difference Chams makes. In fact, as the Ever Lovely Mrs J said to me earlier, it’s more than going out, it’s support too. How right she is. Oh, I’d also like to say a quick note of thanks to those of you who got in touch via email or who commented with support. Thank you ❤️ After last weekend’s spot of bother, I had ordered two skirts from the Oxfam Online Store as a bit of both a gamble and retail distraction. […]

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Lessons Learned: Part III – Shopping

Hi, Last time I wrote about finding what works for you from a style point of view. That style may change based on what you’re up to, as your tastes change, or as your confidence grows. All that aside, knowing what works for you and actually getting hold of things leads to the heady world of shopping… Real World Shopping What about trying things on? Well, the old school Jeans on Top of the Stash hack works in most mixed gender stores. Supermarkets, out of town clothing barns, certain department stores, etc. Work you way through the clothing section of your choice, pick up a few items, and then drop a jumper or a pair of jeans from the section […]

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Lessons Learned: Part II – Style

Hi, If, like I was as a kid, you’re not great with Roman numerals welcome to part eye eye 😉 Where were we? Oh yes, things learned along the way. Finding your style A key part of expressing who we are is how we dress. Even choosing not to be bothered about creating a certain look is, ironically, a decision. When you’re on the Trans spectrum, clothing can be freeing, comfortable, joyful, oppressive, or, if you’re unlucky, just plain wrong. A lot of it comes down to context and there’s times when what’s okay one day, is not on another. Not just for us, but partners if we’re a relationship. Finding out what works for you is a long game. […]

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The Balancing Act

Hi,Someone once said – or more accurately, sang – it’s not easy being green. I make this point only as a pop culture reference and a warm up to the idea of the obvious metaphor at play. So, by a series of fortunate events, it came to pass that I had a day out. With messing things up last week and knowing that I’ll miss next week’s meeting, I was beginning to feel the pinch of being in just one gender. I feel guilty at what I think of as sneaking out, yet at the same time – either through self-kindness or self-delusion, the jury’s still out – that ol’ inner stress ratchet was clicking slowly but ever upwards. Due […]

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