Lessons Learned: Part III

Hi, Last time I wrote about finding what works for you from a style point of view. That style may change based on what you’re up to, as your tastes change, or as your confidence grows. All that aside, knowing what works for you and actually getting hold of things leads to the heady world of shopping… Real World Shopping What about trying things on? Well, the old school Jeans on Top of the Stash hack works in most mixed gender stores. Supermarkets, out of town clothing barns, certain department stores, etc. Work you way through the clothing section of your choice, pick up a few items, and then drop a jumper or a pair of jeans from the section […]

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Lessons Learned: Part II

Hi, If, like I was as a kid, you’re not great with Roman numerals welcome to part eye eye 😉 Where were we? Oh yes, things learned along the way. Finding your style A key part of expressing who we are is how we dress. Even choosing not to be bothered about creating a certain look is, ironically, a decision. When you’re on the Trans spectrum, clothing can be freeing, comfortable, joyful, oppressive, or, if you’re unlucky, just plain wrong. A lot of it comes down to context and there’s times when what’s okay one day, is not on another. Not just for us, but partners if we’re a relationship. Finding out what works for you is a long game. […]

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The Balancing Act

Hi, Hi, Someone once said – or more accurately, sang – it’s not easy being green. I make this point only as a pop culture reference and a warm up to the idea of the obvious metaphor at play. So, by a series of fortunate events, it came to pass that I had a day out. With messing things up last week and knowing that I’ll miss next week’s meeting, I was beginning to feel the pinch of being in just one gender. I feel guilty at what I think of as sneaking out, yet at the same time – either through self-kindness or self-delusion, the jury’s still out – that ol’ inner stress ratchet was clicking slowly but ever […]

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A tale of two wardrobes

Hi, Keeping two wardrobes can be tricky. I would love to think it’s not about deceit, but keeping things out of the way. Not everyone needs to know what we have in the cupboard I guess. But, if you’re in that place where you can be cool with your partner, or even family, I think that’s a good thing to have or to work towards. Plus, if you are in that place, I think it’s a good thing to keep working at respecting your partner’s needs where you can. Sure, I get that we need to express ourselves and I think we also have to not pursue things at the cost of everything – or indeed – everyone. That, I […]

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Scaffolding

Hi, I think I now know what my blogging kryptonite is… or maybe even, are. Namely: trying to write a post after a very tasty meal. All brain power has been redirected to my stomach. Hey, I’m a man, a dad, and over 40. Frankly, it’s touch and go monotasking. 😛 failing to write down any semblance of a theme the first gin & tonic in many months Tiredness Any combination of the above 🙂 Hmm. I may just have to wing it. 😀 With the cooler weather now very much in place – and thank all that’s fabulous! 🙂 – it was time to think about transitional dresses. Not quite summer, not quite autumn, but that lovely in-between time. Thinking back […]

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