Do I really need this?

Hi, Over on the Chameleons Forum, someone – Pat, I think – asked if any of us had been buying clothes during COVID19. Online or otherwise, but purchasing new threads, cosmetics, shoes, etc. It’s a tricky thing shopping, IMO. On the one hand, finding a bargain or an item that complements or updates an outfit is rather nice. Yesteryear’s skirt and shoes made stylish by a new top or mixing up a much loved tunic with different jeans. Whatever the item, if it works with you and feels good: that’s a win in my book. The flip side is shopping because we are bored. Maybe we’re looking to distract, validate ourselves, a treat because we’ve been working hard, or the […]

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Stillness

Hi, This week on our development course – that’s helping others develop, not us (well sorta) – we had a visit from a counsellor. She specialised in getting people to get outside and to join her on walks in the countryside. As an icebreaker, she asked us to think of our preferred natural habitat. Before you think it, it wasn’t swanning about en femme someplace 🙂 I’ve said this a few times before on this blog, but my go-to place for tranquillity – either in my head or in the real world – is woodland. Ideally old woods, with huge trees that reach up to the sky and whose branches splay out to cover the sky that beautiful mix of […]

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A series of fortunate events

Hi, It’s been a bit of an iffy week if I’m being honest. A right old riot of negative emotions chucked into the tumble dryer and given a long spin. At least, that’s how it felt. I should stress – and we may come back to that word -that it wasn’t anything serious. It was, what I like to call, some Work Toss. Things that really don’t matter in the big picture, but that somehow get under your skin. I guess, and maybe like a lot of folk, I don’t like doing things I’m clueless about. Yes, I’ll try leaving my comfort zone, but heading into something I just don’t get (like maths or the offside rule) really isn’t my […]

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Choosing

Hi, If you’re a blogger do you find that even if you prep something to write about, you just can’t seem to connect with it later on? Old Research So it was that I had an idea to write about a rather old research paper that I’d found: The Gender Variant Phenomenon. I popped it on the Chameleons Forum and there was a bit of a discussion about it. Not from a naysaying point of view, but more that it connected with a lot of people. I’ve since done a bit more Googling on it and it does data from 2001. I’m not here to knock the research and I’m wary that just because I’ve found something that hits the old […]

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Pack up your troubles

Hi, How’s things with you? Hopefully all good. After last week’s drift into and back out of the past, I guess we’re back again to the present. Blogging, IMHO, is somewhat of an odd thing. It’s got that kinda weird public/private thing going on. There are things on here that I write about that I don’t talk to many of my friends about. Well, certainly not workmates or friends who aren’t trans. Take for example Tuesday evening; the kids have broken up, the Jones Massive have had tea, and everyone is doing their own thing. I decided to pack a bag for Chams, hoping that taking a little more time would mean that I wasn’t in quite a rush Wednesday, […]

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