Lessons Learned: Part XI – Avoid Purging

Hi, The other day, someone asked about how they could stop purging. Okay, so first off, from a Trans community point of view, purging is all about throwing all your your clothes, shoes, wigs, and makeup away. At least for Assigned Male at Birth folk, and I would guess there’s a similar process for Assigned Female at Birth people too It typically follows periods of very low self esteem and/or high levels of guilt. What do we have to be guilty about? Oh, you just need to listen to that negative voice in your head. The one that tells you are aren’t good enough, that you’re ugly, that you’re a fake, hideous, attention seeking, a perv, etc. I would wager […]

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Quiet

Hi, Last week and indeed today, I spent a fair few hours writing blog posts that haven’t made the light of day. I am unsure what this is. Part of it feels like a confidence/quality question – certainly in the spoof post I drafted. But in terms of my views on the recent ruling on the employment tribunal case, I’m thinking I’m self-censoring. The above doubt circles around like a spinning top. Is it okay not to post, inasmuch that I’m being respectful and not wading in with rent-a-quote opinion pieces? Is it fear? That of the message landing badly and offending others, or slipping on to the RADAR and having to fend off a comment storm of angry keyboard […]

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Some summer sparkle

Hi, Last night was an evening out to Chams and date I say, I rather enjoyed it. It was great to be out for an evening to catch up with friends. I’m going to leave the post about the employment tribunal news for another day. What I’ll say right now, is it’s not great news, but I think it may not be as bad as some make out. Shall we move on to resisting by existing? 😉 I loved my new top (Roman Originals, for a change), although while the new white jeans were not heading south (unlike the black pair they’ve replaced), I may need to take them in a bit. Ah, the joys of being a little bit […]

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Price and/or pride?

Hi, I switched on my gaming console last night and I noticed a tile showing celebrate pride month. Intrigued, I took a look and indeed there was a number of inclusive games (as in friendship, identity, and romance options are more than only cis/het ones). That and content from LGBTQ+ folk in terms of games and films. All good stuff, IMO, and as a gamer and someone who’s somewhere on the Trans spectrum, I thought it was a good thing. So, here’s my questions why wait until June? What happens after Pride finishes? I think, like much in life, there’s nuances and I’m likely to lead more favourably to a company that celebrates Pride, supports LGBTQ+ people *all* year, and […]

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Tis the season

Hi, With it being June, it’s Pride month and there’ll be various events online and otherwise from LGBTQ+ organisations around the world. For anyone asking why do we need a month for people to be proud of who they are, I would say you only need to look at the news and at recent history. The documentary on Netflix called Hating Peter Tatchell or Amazon Prime’s Disclosure would be excellent places to start if you’re interested in recent history, IMO. The 1970s might have been an age away, yet the laws and attitudes of that time cast a long shadow. One that still, sadly, touches us. So am I moaning about the past? No, organisations – from ‘charities’, pressure groups, […]

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