Glamuary

Hi, First off, good luck for this year. I feel I should add that I don’t mean that in the sarcastic or comedic sense of well, good luck with that. Certainly a phrase that’s possibly passed your lips in 2020. 🙂 I feel that the post Xmas/New Year period can be a little tricky. The festive season can be a great distraction with the bustle, celebration, time off, and what have you. After all that comes the long month of January. Not that it’s January’s fault, to be fair. It’s not got the Saturday morning lie in from the Friday night excesses, but more the month of with the welcome of a Monday morning. 😉 Why is it I look […]

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A million butterfly wings

Hi, Well, I think we can safely say that 2020 was as much year to remember, as one we’d like to forget. 🙂 I am hopeful that you’ve escaped the worst of this year, be they issues around health (mental and/or physical), employment, or other matters. Looking back to last January, the idea of that there would be a global pandemic seemed incredulous…. and yet, here we are. One might say that we are where we are because some folk have decided not to believe the evidence or science, but then we’d be into a discussion on society and politics. Moving on…. 😉 This post has been somewhat tricky to write. How do you sum up all that’s happened this […]

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The one before the big day

Hi, With us on the cusp of Christmas, I’d like to wish you all good luck during the festive break. Given the crazy times in which we find ourselves, I think we could all do with a day off from the merry-go-round. 🙂 I take hope you (and yours) remain safe and well, whatever you’re up to, and whoever you’re with. ❤️ I’d also like to express note of thanks to those of you who’ve visited and engaged with this little blog. With 2020 putting the brakes on so much, having a place to share thoughts and ideas has really helped, so thank you. On a blogging note, the time gain through not commuting means I have more creative energy […]

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Lessons Learned VII

Hi, In the last Lessons Learned I wrote about going out and the need for some self-belief to help make that happen. Listening to trans friends and reflecting on my own experiences, one of the things that can really hammer us is passing. For those not in the know, shall we aim for passing as appearing as your preferred/new gender and not being ‘read’ (spotted/outed/seen) as transgender. It’s not about tricking anyone, it’s often about personal safety, but there’s more than that. (Note: a slight edit to that paragraph. I’m not a huge fan of definitions – I’m more a story person – but I think we need to start somewhere 🙂). I think passing is a curious thing: an […]

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Lessons Learned: Part VI

Hi, When it comes to be being somewhere on the Trans spectrum, there’s the question about going out. I’ve mentioned support groups and shopping previously, yet stepping out can be quite another thing, IMO. In some ways, getting outside feels like ability, confidence, style, and self acceptance coming together as one. BTW, I don’t think you have to have a full house on those, and – dare I say – you decide when you’re ready. Maybe you’re still learning to dress or find your style, and your self acceptance isn’t there yet. But, so what? You want to get out there, you do that. You don’t need anyone’s permission (unless you’re borrowing the car 😉). Sometimes, you just have to […]

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