TDoV 2021

Hi, On March 31st each year it’s the international Transgender Day of Visibility. Unlike the day of remembrance later in the yard, today is a today to talk about the achievements of our community. I think it is with noting that to those of you on the transgender spectrum and allies as well, have a moment to reflect on your achievements. I don’t say this to butter you up with false praise, but that small acts of kindness and perhaps more than ever this year, being present is a form of activism. Equally, if you are helping someone else – be they trans, a friend of someone, or a would-be ally – you are doing excellent work. It all counts […]

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Lessons Learned: Part VIII

Hi, In previous Lessons Learned I’ve written about various things including finding your personal style and shopping. This post (hopefully) fills a gap around building your shape. Now, that might seem a bit odd – I almost wrote nuts, but we’ll come too those later 😉 – in the idea you can build a shape. What I mean is, what are the tricks, hacks, and ProTips to help you have more of a femme figure compared to your regular figure. I will touch on FTM stuff as well, but as that’s not my area of expertise, it will be light. First off, let me a clear – oh dear, I sound like a politician about to not answer the question […]

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UK Census 21

Hi, In the weekend just gone it was time for the UK to fill out the census. This time around, things were a little different to the previous decade. The department had taken the option – via feedback and involving trans groups – to improve the data collection and ask about gender identity. Looking into some of the history around that and on listening to a specialist from local government, it seems there’s very much an interest on how many people in the UK consider themselves to be part of the transgender spectrum and also how they choose to identify. There’s a page about that here. Having had the conversation with said specialist a few weeks back, as I say […]

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Just another five minutes…

Hi, Last night I got what felt like the first proper night’s sleep in a while. A combination of a change in getting up time, brighter mornings, Hound 1 wanting a middle of the night trip outside two nights on the go (bless him), and then that brain spin where you just can’t seem to switch off. For this reasons, and I’m not providing an excuse 🙂, I have been the wrong side of tired for most of this week. Too tired to summon the violins as I weep dramatically from my chair 😁 Jokes aside, tiredness is a funny beast for me. I find my creativity drops and I do need to feel I’m with it when it comes […]

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Survival

Hi, In the media and online, many women have been sharing their survival techniques when walking alone in public spaces. How is it that it’s 2021 and around half our population do not feel safe when out after dark? Just last month, my niece was verbally harassed in the street. What type of verbal? Sexual of course by some dirty ****er. She reported it to the Police and the man is now banned from that area of the town. I asked the Ever Lovely Mrs J if she followed the survival rules (she did and still does), even if we live out in the sticks and not in any bustling city. For both of our kids, the local secondary means […]

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