Alive

In the Groundhog Days of this and last year, I am missing being pretty. It’s not something I yearn for, but like the twinkling of warm spring sun, I’m aware of how much I’ve missed such things. I am grateful for the variety of dog walks I can go on, not having to commute, not being ill, being employed, having my family safe, and being able to pick which shop I buy groceries from: such things bring me happiness and contentment. To share and laugh and a smile with the Ever Lovely Mrs J helps. The silliness in the mundane and the pleasure of the everyday… And yet, there are times when I miss the sound of my heels, the […]

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International Womens’ Day

Hi, Happy International Womens’ Day. 🌟 Celebrate women’s achievement. Raise awareness against bias. Take action for equality. International Womens’ Day website The above is a selection of steps that we could take to help move things on and improve gender equality. Things we could do – whatever gender we are – to help and not just for today, but every day. Excuse me, but Sarah was just saying…. That sounds great. Could you say more, Zahra? I think Marie said that earlier this week. Marie, what’s your take on this? Please, include and empower where you can. Hearing a new point of view can really spark innovation and there can be times when we’ve overlooked something. Not through malice or […]

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The part timer’s dilemma

In last night’s Chams call we spoke about doing enough. Or more accurately, the dilemma of the person the closet and the Catch 22 of wanting to help move things on and yet, not be too out, if that makes sense. On the one hand, I’m okay with my trans side and I sort of feel mostly unworried about myself if someone from work or my family found out. However, while I’m not so fussed, I am concerned by the effect it would have on my family. I certainly don’t want to embarrass our two teens and while I might be over it, I don’t want anyone judging the Ever Lovely Mrs J because of who she married. As with […]

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Conversations with strangers

Hi, A handful of weeks ago – although honestly, with this COVID19 non time I seem to be in, it could’ve been this morning 😉 – an email popped in from the Get in Touch form on this blog. It was from a volunteer from talleyapp.com and they were looking for another guest co-host on their weekly call. This one happened to be about LGBTQ+ History Month, and so I said I was interested. I’m someone’s worried about these online things – perhaps ironic given my job and that I blog on here too – as online, I feel my voice very much does who I am. A silly fear given my photos on here may well do that, but […]

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Gardens not roads

Hi, With the half term holiday a week behind me, it’s finally Friday night. There’s mutterings about the kids going back to school soon and I’ll guess we’ll see as things develop. One of the things I see a fair few times at work, is the metaphor of a road as change. Namely, a twisty turny journey through a clipart icon forest from car-at-the-start to the smiling sunshine at the end. I have an issue with this, particularly when it comes to change or improvement. 🙂 For me, a road suggests we complete the journey and reach our destination. So, everything is all sorted now, yeah? No need to do anything else, we can kick back and bask in the […]

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