Month: February 2018

The roller coaster

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Hi, A few months ago I had the good fortune to go to a training event at work. It was about learning to accept change, and also to help others – including yourself – cope with that. We covered something called the Kubler-Ross Cycle. Sometimes it’s called the Grief Cycle. Not because changes at work only gives you grief, but it’s a process we can go through during grief itself. It looks a bit like this, although a quick check via your favour search engine will find better diagrams. I sat in the classroom, made notes, and – as ever – wondered how it affected people at work or who’d been bereaved. It wasn’t until three new people joined us at […]

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To purge or not to purge? That is the question.

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Hi, Over at the Chameleons web site, we have a forum so we can keep in touch, share ideas & tips, plus discuss things between meetings. Just recently Diane asked: Have you ever purged? Now for those who don’t know that bit of trans slang, a purge is – perhaps somewhat obviously – when you chuck everything. Not just a ruthless clearout, but anything and everything related to *ahem* crossing over is disposed of. While there are various reasons why someone might do this – guilt, shame, clean break, etc – I think the idea is to get rid of any temptation and make a clean start of it. There is, IMHO, no shame in trying it, but I would […]

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That’s a wrap

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Hi, How’s things? Brr, it’s been a bit nippy in Dear Old Blighty, but so it goes in February. It seems Winter has a last hurrah and just when you think you might turn down the central heating eh? Yay for extra thick tights eh? 🙂 Media So, after last week’s post about the media, I visited a local journalist to help him with a piece about what it is to be trans in Nottingham. I guess I’m the token part-timer 😉 For those of you wondering if I’d taken leave of my sense, and/or usual cautionary nature; fear nor dear reader! This being the dear old Auntie Beeb, they’re getting an actor in to voice my words. This’ll, A) […]

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Media

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Hi, How’s things? All going well I hope. It’s been a busy in-between week this time around. It seemed that the spam filter on the Chameleons’ mail system, had been a little too vigilant, and so messages from our contact form, were not in the inbox. Cue a rush of fiddling with software settings, and then replying to people who’d written in. That now seems to be resolved, and it was this week that an email came in from a journalist. He’s looking to put together some short segments on what it is to be trans, and got in touch with the group. We had the usual Q&A, and then we hit the crunch question: would you or any of […]

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