Month: October 2019

When you can’t think of a decent title

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Hi,  There are times when I sit down to write Friday’s blog post and I just can’t seem to get it started. It as if there is too much going on in my head: a whirlwind of images, thoughts, and emotions. Not from a creativity point of view, moreover, too much going on. The way through it, at least for me, is to take a deep breath, pause, and then start to write. Maybe I’m just trying to make sense of the week. Last night we had our Halloween meeting for Chameleons. A few folks where a bit more gothic than usual and as a general rule, we don’t really do a fancy dress evening. When we have, it’s been […]

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Big Girl Pants

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Hi, Many moons ago I was listening to a work colleague talk about some work she’d struggled with. C recounted how she’d had a touch of Imposter Syndrome (we may come back to that another time) and I asked her how she’d got by it. “Oh, I just put my big girl pants on and got it sorted,” she quipped. So that’s how I was introduced to the phrase. So it was that in a meeting this morning – a meeting, I should add dear reader, that I was not looking forward to, for the concern (fear?) that it would be more conflict than collaboration. But, thinking back to the old mindfulness hack of what is it I can see […]

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Review – Tights

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Hi, A few weeks ago the Ever Lovely Mrs J mentioned a firm to me called Snag Tights. They are very much not a ‘one size fits all’ company. Instead, they offer a variety of sizes for the long, the short, and the tall – as someone once sang. Intrigued, I thought I’d have a look at their site, and maybe invest. Now, official disclaimer time: I don’t work for the company and I’m not getting any freebies for posting this review. My aim here is for you lovely readers to avoid wasting your pennies on badly fitting tights. We’ve been there, right? Too tight, rough, long in the wrong places, short in others. Sometimes you carefully slip them on […]

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This is not the group you are looking for.
You may go about your business.

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Hi,  The other week an email arrived in the Chameleons inbox. It wasn’t from a trans person, someone related to some who’s trans, nor a training enquiry. It was from someone who identified as an Admirer. For those who’ve not heard the term before, in general, Admirers are usually men and they like transgender people: generally male to female, but it can be the other way around too. The guy was respectful and it’s probably the second email that the group’s received since I’ve been handling the inbox. I don’t know if Admirer folk are quite rare, or that they get the vibe – correctly – that Chams is a social & support group for trans people and their family. […]

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What did you wish you knew, or had someone near you understand?

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Hi, In an online article somewhere far, far, away I caught the line: what did you wish you knew or had someone near you understand? Well, there is a question. Two. perhaps. 🙂 Here’s my thoughts on this and if you have your own, please feel free to share via the contact form, in the comments, or feel free to not to. It’s all very calm here at YATGB. What did you wish you knew? That as a young man, that life would get easier as I got older and that I’d meet someone very special to share things with (the Ever Lovely Mrs J, of course). That it’s okay to make mistakes and to learn from them, is sometimes […]

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