Hi,
Ah, the occasional and somewhat rare midweek post 🙂
Every year on 31st March, we celebrate a Trans Day of Visibility across the world. I will not go into the nonsense and hate we’re currently experiencing as a community – frankly, there’s not the time, and secondly we see enough of the Useful Idiots being platformed on and by the media. Ragefarming, anyone? 🙄
For those of out & about today, congratulations and thank you.
For those of you not up to much today, may I say that’s okay too? It’s not always easy to do so – home, family, health, and/or work commitments, etc.
It may be that you, like me, don’t have the opportunity to do so. You may not feel safe to be about.
Perhaps the best thing we can do, is highlight the day in conversation. Gently deflect naysayers with Well, that’s not been my experience with trans folks. Point out that rights and kindness are good for all of us, and they don’t come at the cost of another person’s.
If that’s not an option, there’s always another day. So, outings from previous posts:
It seems just being ourselves – with friends, online, in public, etc – is now a statement. It shouldn’t be, IMO, but here we are.
Stay safe & and happy TDOV ❤️
L x
Thanks, Lynn – although I couldn’t spend the day in Girl Mode (other things got in the way) it’s good to know others were out there. And I agree: in these hostile times it’s important to show that we’re human, too.
Thanks Hue. Yeah, similar outcome to you, I guess. I was at work and it’s the school holidays, so an ‘out there’ option wasn’t on the cards.
But – as Sue points out on her comment and blog – we can only do what we can. In my case, getting out when possible.
Stay safe!
Thanks, Lynn. With these events and anniversaries there shouldn’t be any pressure on anyone to be or do any particular thing … after all, so much of the problem we have in life is being required to be or do a particular thing! It’s why the vast majority of trans people are and have always been invisible.
As far as contemporary transphobes and their media chums go, their association with unpopular regimes is their weakness. These regimes, for all their bluster and violence, are crass and incompetent and are not likely to last long, history suggests. When they fall, that should make transphobia unpopular.
Sue xx
Very true, Sue. I would hope that TDoV is about people – be they cis, trans, or elsewhere! – doing what they can to raise visibility and – ideally! – improve tolerance, support, and understanding.
For part-timers like myself, I am always ‘me’, but I don’t always appear authentically. Does therein lie the rub? An almost Catch 22 of not being visible for reasons, and yet those reasons exist because of the levels of visibility? Hmm. Easy to point the finger at myself, but given the toxicity of bigotry being pedalled, I guess we’re back to the old phrase: “If you can get by without being full time, do what you need to survive.”
Hi Lynn
Slightly chastened by chickening out during last Friday’s Pride Network discussion of TDOV and keeping my laptop camera turned off and masked, I decided to make it up a little on the day itself – unfortunately an on-site work Monday, and hence in bloke mode – and made up a banner with Happy Trans Day of Visibility 2026 over a trans flag and several pictures of Susie taken at my last Pride March, and posted it on the company Trans Employee channel on Teams.
( I wonder how many other companies have not just an LGBT+ Pride employee support network but a specific private one for trans employees?)
Well, and in kindness, maybe it wasn’t the right time? I know it’s rarely exactly right, but if you’re not okay, why rush? 🙂 Besides, you’d made it out at the event previously.
As to private network, I guess where that’s hosted and who controls the access. IT often bumble into privileged information. I say that as someone who works in IT.
I have now added the 31st of March to my calendar, just so I don’t forget in future. With a lot going on in life, it is easy to forget such an important date.
“For those of out & about today, congratulations and thank you.
For those of you not up to much today, may I say that’s okay too? It’s not always easy to do so – home, family, health, and/or work commitments, etc.
It may be that you, like me, don’t have the opportunity to do so. You may not feel safe to be about.
Perhaps the best thing we can do, is highlight the day in conversation. Gently deflect naysayers with Well, that’s not been my experience with trans folks. Point out that rights and kindness are good for all of us, and they don’t come at the cost of another person’s.”
Nicely put Lynn x
Best Wishes
Lotte x
Ah, added TDOV to the calendar sounds a very good idea. Thank you! I’ll get that added too.