Shadows and light

Hi, How’s things with you, dear reader? Hopefully good, and if not, fingers crossed they’ll soon improve. Expect rain A few of you have been kind enough to get touch and to mention your concern about – how to put this? – that there’s been a darker turn to my writing of late. First off, thank you to those who got in touch; it means a lot. ❤️ So, secondly, I may call of the sage wisdom of veteran news reporter, John Sergeant. He said (and I’ll paraphrase) for any good report, focus on: what’s going on, what’s next, and will it get worse. Oh, you might want to get a cup of tea and settle in. This may be […]

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Wax on, wax off

Hi, Shall we have a round of good news? Just for a change of thoughtful introspection, worry, or talk of coping. 🙂 Wish List With the summer holidays coming to a close and a change from short to long trousers, I dared to dream of being rid of the accursed leg fluff. Usually, I would opt for the epilator and wince my way through the process. But with another decade on the clock not too far away, I felt now was the time for something off the wish list. I mean, I’ve heard it said that you should aim for experiences and memories, rather than possessions. After a quick look online, I found a waxing specialist in a nearby village […]

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Ghosts of the past

Hi, There are times when it feels a strange thing to be a blogger. To be someone who writes and shares what they do and who they are. Occasionally, these can be very personal moments. There is something that nags at me, like a stone in a shoe or a rough nail on cloth. It’s a… if I can be honest here, I sometimes worry that this is all vainglorious nonsense, an edifice to ego, and perhaps, pointless. But then, isn’t a lot of such ilk easily dismissed by reductionist thought? Why see a film if it’s ultimately a series of flashing lights and noises. Why go out for a walk when you’ll only come back to your home. Well, […]

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You opened the box…

Hi, A few weeks back, we had a family holiday (although Wee Man has moved out, bless him, to his student digs). The time away helped me get away from the usual routine and switch off from a few worries. The slower pace meant that I had more time to write, as much as blogging is writing, I guess. Conversely, this week has been a bit more full on, so come Friday night, I’m flagging a bit creatively. If you can call What Lynn Did Next, creating 🙂 I have not yet made time (or found time?) to create a map, but I’ve had a few ideas of locales and suitable doodles. Maybe the long weekend will assist in that. […]

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Lessons Learned: Part XIII – Mindsets and Maps

Hi, Not so long ago, I was talking with a (trans) friend about their worries about their gender and where it might be taking them. As with any conversation about emotions and where are experiencing difficulties, often – or may it’s just me :-)- we use metaphors. Firstly, I need to say that any metaphor you use, is one that works for you. This doesn’t make it wrong if you use it and I don’t. Indeed, it may be that we need to respect a phrase or story someone uses, rather than dump our own interpretation on top. The risk, otherwise, is that we break the flow of the other person’s story or sharing, as we draw them into explaining. […]

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Lessons Learned: Part XII – Bothering

Hi, How often have you heard or said the phrase “Ah, why do we bother eh?“. I ask this not out of judgement, but from curiosity. That and to lead into this chapter of Lessons Learned. 🙂 As a genderfluid person, I spend most of my life in bloke mode. What helps keep me okay, is enough time to express all of who I am. To anyone who thinks being genderfluid is just about dressing up, it’s not. My nature and needs do not switch off, I am always me, with whatever gubbins is going on in my head. The backchatter of “That’s nice… Ah, but not in Richard mode #SadFace”. Moreover I have to mask who I am or […]

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