Small changes

Hi, Last night it was a Thursday night out to Chams and I found that I’d missed the routine. The latter not being run of the mill, but more a ritual in someway. One that leaves you feeling (and looking) different from before. It’s not quite the right metaphor, but on being able to dress as I do, it feels like the really good stretch. The one that leaves you feeling more awake and as if you’ve shaken off some tension you didn’t know you’d built up. One of the group has some transport issues and as their house isn’t massively out of the way, the evening started off differently, with me picking them up and having a chat on […]

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Twinkles

Hi, Another week rolls by eh? 🙂 I had Friday and indeed this Wednesday off from blogging. Given the circumstances around our boy dog, the Ever Lovely Mrs J’s health, and indeed her Dad, sometimes, something’s gotta give. It’s funny. I talk on here – write? 🤔 – about putting your own oxygen mask on first, yet in the flurry and fluster of life, that advice is so easily forgotten. A note of thanks to both M and A who reminded me that there’s nothing to feel guilty of in doing that. The all important step back did help. ♥️ Funnily enough I found that I missed writing – if you can say blogging is writing. Well, at least a […]

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Not if, but when

Hi, First of all, trigger warning as this post will talk about death. In Choose Your Own Adventure style, feel free to exit stage right if this affects you, or turn to page two to read on…. [ NB: if you’re reading this on a mobile, you may need to scroll down passed the Previous Posts area ]

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Lessons Learned: Part XI – Avoid Purging

Hi, The other day, someone asked about how they could stop purging. Okay, so first off, from a Trans community point of view, purging is all about throwing all your your clothes, shoes, wigs, and makeup away. At least for Assigned Male at Birth folk, and I would guess there’s a similar process for Assigned Female at Birth people too It typically follows periods of very low self esteem and/or high levels of guilt. What do we have to be guilty about? Oh, you just need to listen to that negative voice in your head. The one that tells you are aren’t good enough, that you’re ugly, that you’re a fake, hideous, attention seeking, a perv, etc. I would wager […]

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Quiet

Hi, Last week and indeed today, I spent a fair few hours writing blog posts that haven’t made the light of day. I am unsure what this is. Part of it feels like a confidence/quality question – certainly in the spoof post I drafted. But in terms of my views on the recent ruling on the employment tribunal case, I’m thinking I’m self-censoring. The above doubt circles around like a spinning top. Is it okay not to post, inasmuch that I’m being respectful and not wading in with rent-a-quote opinion pieces? Is it fear? That of the message landing badly and offending others, or slipping on to the RADAR and having to fend off a comment storm of angry keyboard […]

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