Tag: history

Christmas Wishes

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Hi, How’s things with you dear reader? Hopefully good and that you are safe, warm, and fed, at least. The first few steps of Maslow’s model. 🙂 This week I’ve had two conversations with researchers. The first was a local author who is looking into the LGBTQ+ history of Nottingham. There’s probably a pun to be made about spilling the tea on the T, but I’m not that clever 😉 Nottinghamshire The researcher and I spoke about the group’s (Chams) start up and I’m going to say hand on heart that I’m not the expert in this. I can talk about my experiences in Nottingham – back then and now – but given the group started in the late 70s, […]

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Xmas Party 2022

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Hi, This week I was out with work colleagues and one of them, a gent, commented on the effort and money his partner spent on getting ready. He absolutely wasn’t grumbling nor being sexist. Instead, drawing on the cost difference between a haircut for him and that bloke outfits were fairly basic and easy. It was one of those conversations where you get to hear (and learn) from nodding occasionally and actively listening. Learning in terms of what regular blokes – if there’s such a thing – think and how that might be different for each of them in their relationships. Part of me felt that for some of us genderfluid types, we’re quite aware of the processes, prices, and […]

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Trapdoor

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Hi, This week be a post of two halves. If you can make it a three halves of one, the current UK administration have a job for you in budgeting 😋 Thank you, I’m here all week! Try the vegetarian option! 😉 Introspection Now if you don’t want to wade through this next chunk of navel gazing, feel free to skip to the end and there’s the usual What Lynn Did Next at Chams stuff. 🙂 I have had another period of time off work. Nothing serious – as in a major physical condition or an ‘episode’ around mental health – thankfully, but a seasonal cold that flattened me. We’ll come back to this in a mo. Before the above, […]

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Wax on, wax off

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Hi, Shall we have a round of good news? Just for a change of thoughtful introspection, worry, or talk of coping. 🙂 Wish List With the summer holidays coming to a close and a change from short to long trousers, I dared to dream of being rid of the accursed leg fluff. Usually, I would opt for the epilator and wince my way through the process. But with another decade on the clock not too far away, I felt now was the time for something off the wish list. I mean, I’ve heard it said that you should aim for experiences and memories, rather than possessions. After a quick look online, I found a waxing specialist in a nearby village […]

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Lessons Learned: Part XIII – Mindsets and Maps

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Hi, Not so long ago, I was talking with a (trans) friend about their worries about their gender and where it might be taking them. As with any conversation about emotions and where are experiencing difficulties, often – or may it’s just me :-)- we use metaphors. Firstly, I need to say that any metaphor you use, is one that works for you. This doesn’t make it wrong if you use it and I don’t. Indeed, it may be that we need to respect a phrase or story someone uses, rather than dump our own interpretation on top. The risk, otherwise, is that we break the flow of the other person’s story or sharing, as we draw them into explaining. […]

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Toxic

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Hi, I’ve got a lot running around in my head at the moment. Thoughts jump in and out of focus, so I’m doing what I usually do in this situation: just write…. Or more accurately, when I can’t grab what I need to say, I tailspin into going off topic and I delete things. 🙄 I think this is attempt number four… The bad I… I don’t want to write about the bad things: the loss of womens’ rights in the US; the UK MP’s private letter sent to schools in South Yorkshire about a ‘push back’ to trans teens; and the creeping of fascism of our politics, etc. I am aghast that I’m writing that last line without irony, […]

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