In nature there’s no blemish but the mind.
None can be called deformed but the unkind.
So, dare I suggest that kindness is cool? Going back a little further, and some readers may be aware of the sad passing of Keith Flint, the force majeure frontman for The Prodigy. It seems he was a kind fellow by all accounts.
To be kind in a world that often seems so unpleasant is, I think, an act of rebellion. When the “cool kids’ in music dissed James Blunt, Keith – from a band whose music is so very different – hugged Blunt and congratulated him. BTW, should you find yourself in need of a good laugh, James’s Twitter feed is on the right side of sharp, IMHO.
How does any of this apply to being trans? Well, in an image focused world, I think there’s a risk we focus more on passing and looking our best, than what’s going on within. I mean, if you look in the mirror and find that you’re thinking less of yourself, ask Would I say this to a friend? If someone you care for was struggling, would you point out their faults, or see if you could help? A good person, I think would not judge. Kind does not lie or delude, but looks for the good: inside and out.
Perhaps that old film had much wisdom: be excellent to reach other. Maybe the world would be better if we had more kind rebels.
PS: A note of thanks to the Anonymous Partner who shared some of her journey a little while ago. I’m still trying to work out how to use what you put and preserve your anonymity.
PPS: I’m testing a new Contact form, so if you feel like giving it a test, that would be kind! 🙂