Year: 2017

Mind the gap

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Hi, Last time I mentioned the phrase “a sting of dysphoria”. Sometimes the feeling of not being right with how you look can pounce on you. It’s not like such feelings sneak up, and if you look carefully, they’re lurking in the bushes or pretending to suddenly examine the contents of a shop window. No, these, for me at least, lurk unseen, biding their time for some type of trigger event. A gap between support meetings, or being stuck in a suit for work. I once had a trigger event while a lady waited to set off from the junction in her car. Her hair flicked as she looked both ways, and my negative inner voice said: “You’ll never do […]

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Funshine

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Hi, Despite somehow catching a cold in summer and the lengthy downpours, the British Weather is having a final throw of the dice for sun, wispy white clouds, and pale blue skies. Put away your opaques and boots, break out the sandals and fancy tops one more time 🙂 For whatever reason I had a sting of dysphoria at the start of the week, resulting in a shoe purchase as medication. Like many material purchases, it’s the search that distracts, not the purchased goods. I think I know that you should aim for experiences, not possessions. Still, when you’re on the work-home-work-home treadmill, sneaking in some T time isn’t always easy. It seems that in times of dysphoric dissonance, I fall […]

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History

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Hi, Each week Auntie Beeb* runs a radio show called Book of the Week over on Radio Four. Oddly, and speaking personally, for someone who was very into music in my 20s, I pretty much only listen to talk radio. Perhaps, looking at it a bit more, I never listened to music radio, because they very rarely played stuff I liked. Not much has changed 🙂 [ * For you overseas readers, that’s a nickname for the BBC, our state broadcaster. ] So, Book of the Week; and back in July, it was the turn of self-described “executive transvestite”, Eddie Izzard. In order to keep my Trans License current, you have to listen to at least one of his performances […]

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Pack up your troubles

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Hi, How’s things with you? Hopefully all good. After last week’s drift into and back out of the past, I guess we’re back again to the present. Blogging, IMHO, is somewhat of an odd thing. It’s got that kinda weird public/private thing going on. There are things on here that I write about that I don’t talk to many of my friends about. Well, certainly not workmates or friends who aren’t trans. Take for example Tuesday evening; the kids have broken up, the Jones Massive have had tea, and everyone is doing their own thing. I decided to pack a bag for Chams, hoping that taking a little more time would mean that I wasn’t in quite a rush Wednesday, […]

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Future Retro

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Hi, Back in ’05 Calie, over at T-Central, has been running a retro week, and these have been posts pulled from some of the featured blogs. Anyhoo, Calie was kind enough to ask if I was okay with having a post from 2005 being featured. Wow, 2005: how much has changed since then? That’s before the whole smartphone/tablet arrival, while we still had a Labour government, and before Little Miss was born. Quite a different time! From a personal/trans point of view, I thought I’d have a look at what I wrote and comment on my original thoughts. People change, after all. The question will be in bold and my original answer will be in italics. If you fancy a […]

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Summertime and the living is easy…

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Hi, It had been one of those long gaps between meetings, and with the hot weather, I’d sort have warmed myself up to the idea of going in bloke mode. Yet, as the night out drew closer, temperatures dropped, and as I was working at home, I packed a bag during my lunchtime. There may also have been an opportunity to paint my toes, but there’s no gap in the company timesheet for that. Shame really, as it does wonders for my mood 🙂 Perhaps as I had no expectations of Chams, that it explains why I had such a good time. I’d made fair time through the traffic. Just in time to help Pat and M & Co set […]

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