I’ve been struggling to write a post this week. Not for any momentous reason, but the usual suspects of tiredness and a somewhat busier than usual few days at work. But, perhaps, the truth of it is some posts are hard to write.
The eyes of fear want you to put bigger locks on your doors, buy guns, close yourself off. The eyes of love instead see all of us as ONEBill Hicks
Perhaps I’m taking the late Mr Hicks’s words sightly out of context, but maybe he’ll overlook it this one time 😉
The fear of gay people over won’t someone think of the children?! lead us to the nonsense Section 28 in the 80s. Decades later, almost the same playbook of fear is being rolled out to attack trans people… or perhaps more accurately, trans kids.
It’s not like the transgender community has a massive voice. Certainly not in the ears of those who set policy and amend laws to ensure equality. Yes, trans folk are online: some of us are out, some of us partially out, and a lot more too scared to even touch the handle of the closet door. At this point, a human with an ounce of decency might pause to think how might that feel to not be yourself, to live in fear.
Yet we have…. I’m taking a deep breath here, so I don’t use a very rude word… Yet we have a minority of people actively creating laws to ban American teens from sports, from getting the health care they need, and our own government does not seem bothered to adhere to the promise to update the Gender Recognition Act nor ban the vileness of Conversion Therapy.
Fear is being used to say the Trans people are converting your kids. No we are not. We don’t need to recruit, transgender people arrive in the world by birth. We are born this way and we have to live with what it means. For some, that means help, maybe medical, maybe psychological, or maybe just social. Acceptance by family and friends.
So next time someone rolls out won’t someone think of the children, ask yourself how might it feel to have organisations who, at best, takes a complete disregarded for you, and at worse, actively legislates against your existence. Throw into that mix newspapers that only publish the views of haters and never give you a voice.
I believe it was a former journalist and member of the Scottish Parliament, John Nicolson, who asked the BBC Director General, Tim Davie, if Davie would allow racists and sexists on panels about Black Lives Matter or women’s equality.
I want to believe the rest of Bill’s story that “it’s just a ride”, but I can smell smoke. I can smell it in the news. Wisps of it pass in conversation. Nothing good comes from hate. It burns those who get in the way and it only consumes, never creates. It doesn’t stop either. It doesn’t consume selectively, but moves on to other targets, destroying.
Is that the world we want? A world in which a child born who doesn’t quite fit the narrow binary of gender, must now be told they are wrong, defective, and should be treated as less than the normal kids? F*** that noise. I choose love.