Little Moments


It’s been a busy, almost frantic, last few days, but I’m feeling good about life. Friday has been a welcome and quiet cornerstone to the working week. A little too much travel and rushing between meetings meant Monday through to Thursday was a little too full on. Sure, it’s good to be busy.

My Thursday night out went very well. Outfit wise I had a backup plan as well as a new full-length skirt and two not yet worn tops from last year’s summer sale. The skirt was also in the sale and had the added benefit of the Ever Lovely Mrs J’s blessing. Shopping can be cool, but shopping guilt free is even better in my book. 🙂

Not the stairs. 🙂

As I got changed, somehow my makeup came together – at least I was pleased with it 🙂 – and I did my best to help Michelle – someone new to the group – with their slap too. Playing it forward and all that. That’s why we’re here and it’s good to be kind to others. Bless her, Michelle sent me a PM on our forum to say thanks. How lovely is that?

As I left the changing room upstairs, I was struck how the skirt felt as I moved. Okay, it’s been many years since I started cross-dressing, but every now and then, there’s something new to discover. Maybe its how your earrings move as you walk, the feel of skinny jeans when you’re used to a bloke cut, how your posture changes in heels, or even the sun on properly bare legs. I guess it’s not part of my every day, so when those little moments arrive, I try to take note and remember them. I don’t think of them has having gone, but instead things to think back on and smile.

Back to last night, Val and I popped outside to try getting a photo that was anywhere else than the usual staircase. Katie’s support worker – we’ll keep her name on the QT – kindly offered to take the snap. X is very good with photos. Funny how some people just have the gift for it. Indeed, later on we had a chat about photography and X was curious if others would be interested. I’m hoping she keeps up on things as X really has the eye for it.

Later on, I had a chat with some new visitors. They were regulars at Leicester Chameleons, who meet once a month on a Saturday night. Listening to them talk about the group took me back when I used to go all those years ago.

Talking of groups from back in the day, it is Stonewall’s 50th Anniversary. Despite a few bigots trying to wind back the clock, LGBTQ+ people and their allies are not going to go away. I may not be out & loud, but I am proud of our community. I do what I can either as an ally at work, helping at the group, or running training events for organisations. There are days when it feels like I’m lurking in the shadows, but maybe that’s my imposter syndrome talking.

Instead, I’m going to ignore that, think about who we help at the group, who we talk to in our events, parents & carers of trans kids who email us, and when we do go out, we’re just us: living our lives as best we can. So, for those who came before, thank you, and to those who come after, keep going. The road to equality is long, but we will get there.



  1. I love the outdoors shot, nice to have a change in the background. Lovely outfit as ever.

    Yes, I am proud of what our community has achieved and although I often despair of the outbursts of hate we have seen in the last year or two, we certainly aren't going away and will see that aggression off too. It's probably the last dying outburst of a totally out-of-date bunch of miserable gits, but it doesn't half take up a lot of time dealing with it.
    Sue x

    1. The Centre's grounds are lovely in the summer. Later on the trees don't really hide the M1 in the background. 😉

      Yes, gits. I too am hoping it's the last hurrah. Listening to younger folk – and frankly Police Officers and Post Office staff all look young now 😉 – it seems most a very live and let live. There will be some bigotry passed along, but I think and hope that it won't flourish.

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