Year: 2018

“Like a lawn that’s seen better days…”

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Hair loss. Now, what did Billy Connolly say about these? With the weather slowly turning to Spring, I’m finding I’m no longer sporting the all-important cosy hat. Okay, not a literal cosy but perhaps not far from it. 🙂 Much as it’s nice to feel the sun on my face, I’m sometimes conscious of the feeling of the wind through my lack of hair. You see *ahem* back in the day, I had long hair. Sure, it was a faff and meant a bit of upkeep, but it was very much part of who I was. Even when I had it cut, that felt more me than if I look at the buzzcut I have now. On bad days it […]

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The Power of Listening

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Hi, Earlier this week it was International Women’s Day. I am not a woman and I doubt I’ll ever make the journey to become one. There are some who believe that trans women can never be women. I’m not going to address that in this post and for the record, trans women are women. So, do I think of myself as a woman when in Lynn mode? No, I don’t. I’m a part timer. Trans, possibly, but wholy ‘male’ in behaviour? Not so much. I’m someone not quite wholly in one camp or the other. Sure, I easily pass as a bloke, and provided I keep my trap shut about my true self, I think I get away with it. […]

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Don’t frighten the horses

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Hi, Being British it would be remiss of me not to mention the weather. 🙂 It has been unseasonably cold over the past few days, and this has resulted in Little Miss, Wee Man, and the Ever Lovely Mrs J being off for a few days at the end of the week. I had the good fortune to be at home at the same time, as I’d arranged to work from home. This was so I could wait in for a delivery, but by dumb luck, not one but two arrived. I had also hoped to try and break in some new heels that I’d ordered before half-term. However, a house full of my lovely family put that idea to bed! […]

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The roller coaster

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Hi, A few months ago I had the good fortune to go to a training event at work. It was about learning to accept change, and also to help others – including yourself – cope with that. We covered something called the Kubler-Ross Cycle. Sometimes it’s called the Grief Cycle. Not because changes at work only gives you grief, but it’s a process we can go through during grief itself. It looks a bit like this, although a quick check via your favour search engine will find better diagrams. I sat in the classroom, made notes, and – as ever – wondered how it affected people at work or who’d been bereaved. It wasn’t until three new people joined us at […]

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To purge or not to purge? That is the question.

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Hi, Over at the Chameleons web site, we have a forum so we can keep in touch, share ideas & tips, plus discuss things between meetings. Just recently Diane asked: Have you ever purged? Now for those who don’t know that bit of trans slang, a purge is – perhaps somewhat obviously – when you chuck everything. Not just a ruthless clearout, but anything and everything related to *ahem* crossing over is disposed of. While there are various reasons why someone might do this – guilt, shame, clean break, etc – I think the idea is to get rid of any temptation and make a clean start of it. There is, IMHO, no shame in trying it, but I would […]

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That’s a wrap

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Hi, How’s things? Brr, it’s been a bit nippy in Dear Old Blighty, but so it goes in February. It seems Winter has a last hurrah and just when you think you might turn down the central heating eh? Yay for extra thick tights eh? 🙂 Media So, after last week’s post about the media, I visited a local journalist to help him with a piece about what it is to be trans in Nottingham. I guess I’m the token part-timer 😉 For those of you wondering if I’d taken leave of my sense, and/or usual cautionary nature; fear nor dear reader! This being the dear old Auntie Beeb, they’re getting an actor in to voice my words. This’ll, A) […]

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