I was sat in traffic the other day listening to the radio. By the way, and just for clarity, I do mean sat in a car waiting for the queue to start moving. I wasn’t actually in the road with a radio next to me. That would be odd. Even for me. 🙂
One of the interviewees mentioned that now well-loved phrase: putting on your own oxygen mask first. As the traffic began to move, so did the rusty gears in my head. 🙂
Thinking about some of the parenting books I read – which, admittedly, is now some time ago – they also used that phrase. Looking after yourself before you can truly be able to look after others.
But, and here’s the question, what happens when your needs create friction with the needs of others?
I’m being hypothetical here: does my partner need her hubby to be all man all of the time? Is it selfish for a person to ask for time to be themselves? Is it better than some hobbies/activities are solo? Is compromise always the answer or it is a case that one party should always have a red warning card if things go too far for them?
Is the answer to any of the above: well, it depends? 🙂
I think it comes down to balance. A balance of each party’s needs, where no one feels too put-upon or denied. Walking such a line won’t always be easy. Juggling the needs of others and your own can be tricky at times. Perhaps, provided there’s always some give and some take – and not all on one side – the balance can be maintained.