It feels very much that I’m back in the swing of things. We’re heading towards the end of the month, and there’s a few more days until payday (eek!), so I shall have to be frugal. Perhaps buying a dress in the sale, and *ahem* taking advantage of the Boots vouchers for some press-on nails and a Nyx lippy, was a little extravagant. Still, a treat here and there’s not so bad. Instead, I’m going to blame the service on the car. 😉
So what’s been going on? Well, since you asked, it was Chams last night, and yes I double checked I had packed what I needed. No missing bra & boobs this time!
It was also Helen’s 70th, so in between meetings I nipped out at work to grab a cake. I’m glad I bought the larger size, as it was rather popular with the Chamemelons folk. We had a quick chorus of Happy Birthday, so there’s probably some royalties owed to someone if we’d filmed it. 🙂
The new matt red Nyx lippy went on well and stayed put without any LipCote. Plus, having picked up some pro-tips from the make-up lady at Boots, I think I’ve sorted out the right way to line and fill. Sadly, I’ve yet to master the application of false eyelashes so some practice may be required 😉 Still, every day’s a school day, right?
Taking of school, I had an email to the Chameleons inbox from some theatre students. They’re planning on putting on a play, and one of the characters will be a transman. They wanted to ask a few questions and make sure that they weren’t going to get it horribly wrong.
Now, I might be a man and trans, but I’m not a transman. I also didn’t want to throw any of our transguy blokes in at the deep end, so I met with them to check things out. From the small number of trans blokes at the group, and having listened to their stories, there are many similarities to what I’ve heard from male-to-female folk. Yeah, every person is different, and yet we do share some things.
There was the talk about the mask and having to pretend to be someone. Gah is that draining! Then there’s body issues (natch), plus the proverbial earthquake around Just Who Am I? The challenging of how you’ve grown up, with who you want to be. Lastly, there’s triggers; moments where sights or sounds will sucker punch right in the heart. Remember that anecdote I told you about seeing a lady driver at the junction? Her hair swished as she checked the road was clear, and I heard the thought: You’ll never look like that. Yeah, thanks Brain, just what I needed, a timely reminder of being a tubby dad with thinning hair. 😀
We talked a bit more about terms, and how mental health issues – particularly depression and anxiety – are higher in the trans community. Now, if that’s the stress of pretending to be ‘normal’ (whatever that is!) or conflict around who you are; well, I’m not qualified to say.
Still, an hour passed and by the end of it, they had a few more questions, and I’ve asked Ruben from the group if it would be okay if he got in touch. Best to hear things first hand, I think.
A good end to the month all in all!
Oh, last thing: I’ve been using Elegant Touch 3 Minute Manicure (see here for image) for the last few meetings. They’re about 8 quid a box, and while the sizes aren’t very big, there’s a selection in each pack so you may be okay. Certainly, a lot quicker to apply and remove than my trusty nail varnish! If you’re careful when you remove them, they’re sticky enough to get a number of wears.
Take care & stay fab!