Note to self for the next post: delay on having the weekend G & T until after you’re written this weeks musings 🙂
Last night the Ever Lovely Mrs Jones was out with friends, so yours truly was holding the fort. Bath time and bedtime stories done, it was time to sit back and amuse myself. I suppose in years gone by, the first thing I would have done is give the kids an hour to be properly asleep and then it would be Lynn time. These days, I just don’t bother and I guess that’s down to the fact that I know that at least twice a month, I’ve got an appointment with my alternative wardrobe. I’ve heard from some that twice a month would not be enough and while there are times when I feel the pull of the Dark Side, pretty much 90% of the time I’m cool with it.
So with time on my hands I decided to catch up on a TV show I’d been meaning to watch. Now, I don’t know about you, but if I’m not careful and I’m feeling a bit restless, my hands will reach for the chocolate box. Good for the soul, but not so much the waistline! Instead, I thought I best sort out my dress for the next meeting. It wasn’t a trying on session, more a sewing session. Honestly, I’m so manly, sometimes it hurts 😉
I think it was last year I bought a rather nice purple dress from Very. The only issue with it is the stitching wasn’t very good and if it hadn’t been for a careful application of a safety pin, I would have needed something else to wear. Anyhoo, I’m planning on wearing that again for the upcoming Chameleons Halloween do. So it was out with the needle and thread to sort out the two holes. After that, I realised I had a t-shirt (a bloke one should you be curious) that also needed a little fixing. I guess I was a little over zealous when it came to cutting out the label.
Where does this stuff come from? Oh and I don’t mean the above gibberish. 😉 More the creative / fixy type skills. I’m really very bad at DIY, but ask me to fix Wee Man’s school trousers (or convert to summer shorts) or put together a fancy dress costume and I’m as happy as Wendy… sorry… Larry. 🙂 Maybe it’s a trans thing, but there are less useful skills to have I suppose 🙂
I think it was Thursday that was Spirit Day. Not so much drinking in the streets nor getting in touch with your soulful side, but more support of young LGBT folk. I spotted the event while looking at the It Gets Better site. Sadly, I let the side down because while I may have a few funky colours in one wardrobe, my bloke stuff is more traditional. Okay, I did have a shirt in purple, but I was in jeans that day and it didn’t feel quite right. Oh the vanity! 😉
While looking at the site, I had a quick look at a few of the videos that folk had uploaded. One of them was a young gay chap coming out to his dad. I really felt for him because it can’t have been easy for him. Perhaps that’s why the T gets pushed together with the LGB: at some point we feel the need to come out and perhaps there’s safety in numbers. Perhaps there’s a touch of irony, in that being a crossdresser, for most of the time, outwardly, I’m that stereotypical closeted bloke with a family, dog and 2.4 kids. As an aside, just this week a (trans) friend came out to her Dad and it did not go as well as she’d hoped. If she decides to blog about it, I’ll link to it from here, but it’s not my news to share.
So after I watched the video – which I felt positive about – and then I spotted some of the replies. One of them was from a Christian gent and curious to his point of view, I clicked it. Sadly, it was not the accepting vibe that my sister, a vicar (yes, really) gives out, but the stereotyped bigot pushing the “you’re going to burn in Hell” message instead. Now I know you shouldn’t really talk about religion because it’s a deeply personal matter, but the negativity shown by that man really wound me up. As a person – and religion aside – I just don’t think it is right to go around telling people who are struggling with coming to terms with who they are, that they’re ‘wrong’ and are ‘going to be punished’. I think it’s just cruel and if you did want to bring people into a faith community, how is that going to encourage them? Ahhh, there I go again with my liberal sensibilities. 🙂
I had thought about making an It Gets Better video myself. My main worry is that I’d be outing myself and while I’m not so bothered, what keeps me in check is my thoughts for the family. I really don’t want to give bullies any easy ammunition so my kids are picked on simple because of who I am. That said, I feel it would be beneficial. Yes, I really found it difficult coming to terms with being trans during my teenager years. But I got through it and yes, as the slogan says, it does get better.
[ Today’s lyric: Wish by Nine Inch Nails. I wonder if that’ll go down well at the Halloween party? 🙂 ]