Self-care

Hiya, This week I had the good fortune to be asked to run some trans awareness training. Unusually the event was during the evening, so no long lunch was required. Also, and given the time, I checked with the Ever Lovely Mrs J that she was okay about holding the fort and with me going along. All was fine, which is very cool and the peck on my cheek for good luck put a spring in my step. I think there’s nothing quite like acceptance to make you feel loved. I’m not going to talk about the training or the venue. Maybe I would have posted s snap if I hadn’t been in bloke mode, but you can’t have it […]

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Helping in little ways

Hi, After a week or two of zero trans related activity, two things come along at once. If it helps, feel free to imagine a pair of Clapham omnibus rolling in. Tickets ready? Ding ding! 🙂 Bus 1 Earlier in the week, it was time for a training event in Nottingham. I’d arranged it some time ago and managed to squeeze it in my lunch hour. I try not to swing the lead too much when I’m at work. I may not have the best record for timekeeping, but I like to think I put my all in when I’m in. Well, that’s my excuse and I’m sticking to it! 😉 I called just before setting off to make sure everything […]

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“Like a lawn that’s seen better days…”

Hair loss. Now, what did Billy Connolly say about these? With the weather slowly turning to Spring, I’m finding I’m no longer sporting the all-important cosy hat. Okay, not a literal cosy but perhaps not far from it. 🙂 Much as it’s nice to feel the sun on my face, I’m sometimes conscious of the feeling of the wind through my lack of hair. You see *ahem* back in the day, I had long hair. Sure, it was a faff and meant a bit of upkeep, but it was very much part of who I was. Even when I had it cut, that felt more me than if I look at the buzzcut I have now. On bad days it […]

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The roller coaster

Hi, A few months ago I had the good fortune to go to a training event at work. It was about learning to accept change, and also to help others – including yourself – cope with that. We covered something called the Kubler-Ross Cycle. Sometimes it’s called the Grief Cycle. Not because changes at work only gives you grief, but it’s a process we can go through during grief itself. It looks a bit like this, although a quick check via your favour search engine will find better diagrams. I sat in the classroom, made notes, and – as ever – wondered how it affected people at work or who’d been bereaved. It wasn’t until three new people joined us at […]

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Training day

Hi, At the last Chams meeting, I was trying out an office outfit. Not because I’m changing jobs, or ‘changing’ at work, if you pardon the clumsy pun. No, I was seeing if I could manage a day time / office worker look. This is all because a few weeks ago, a local youth charity got in touch, asking if they could have some trans* awareness training. Well, having done some for a legal group not so long ago, why not? And if so, why not in Lynn mode? Well, given the state of my nerves at 9 AM, the answer would be fear 😉 But, much as fear occasionally serves as a not-so-gentle warning – you know, second thoughts […]

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