Seeking pretty, not plain


Well, I think I can safely say it’s been a rather strange week. Thank you to those of you who offered kind words of support: it’s helped. โค๏ธ It has been a week away from work, but not time off in a holiday sense. But, hey, worker’s rights for sick pay and not being on a zero hour gig are reasons to be cheerful.

I’m frustrated in that I am not quite there yet in terms of recovery. Cross with myself that this lethargy seems to have dragged on. It’s certainly made itself known this last two weeks and may have been lurking in the background from Christmas. The good news is that it’s just me and numerous COVID tests keep coming up negative. Part of me wonders if the tiredness is all in my head. But, even if it was, what does that change?

I did get to Chams last night and I was very grateful for the company. Some times, shared laughter is the best medicine and I think I got a good dose. The Ever Lovely Mrs J nudged me towards going as she said a support group is there to help. As usual, she’s right. Helping in terms of not an echo chamber, but a place of shared understanding, common experiences, and acceptance. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: attending the group is one of the best things in my life.

Given the sightly earlier arrival, I was able to try on a few items I’d spent my work voucher on. I had two tops and two skirts. Oddly, both orders were from Roman Originals and in the spirit of honesty, I’m not receiving anything from them.

I bought the items in an attempt to break away from separates that are safe. Not that there’s anything wrong with such a look. It’s that I have a few plain black, blue, and red skirts. Mostly on the knee, as while I like to not have to pick opaques, I don’t want to look tarty or mumsy. Gah, life and fashion is so much easier in my bloke wardrobe. Perhaps that’s because most men’s clothing is quite conservative in terms of style and pattern. Yes, I do have a few fancy shirts, but next time you’re out, take a look at what your chap on to go is wearing.

Skirts aside, I think I’m a bit better with tops/jumpers, but I think the crux of it is I wanted something that made me feel pretty and fitted. Nothing like a challenge eh? ๐Ÿ˜‰ That and also clothes that made me feel good about my shape. I know, oblong is still a shape ๐Ÿ™‚ But padding and corsetry are a part timer’s best friend.

Talking of fitting, last time’s skirts from the Oxfam Online store were both a sixteen and did not fit. Weird considering I’ve other items that did int same size. Buying eighteens from Roman Originals was a mixed success. One skirt was waaay too big, although the blue one was just fine. Probably because it’s elasticated and I’m that awkward in-betweeny size. Actually, that phrase may well fit my gender too ๐Ÿ˜

Two ditzy items

Both tops were fine, so that’s good news. One was a patterned number (not shown) which I think needs (ironically) a plain skirt or cropped trousers. Both felt lovely on and given a pattern on the skirt, the teal top was my go to choice. The too large skirt was packaged up to be swapped out for a sixteen. I guess I’m helping keep the Royal Mail in business. ๐Ÿ™‚

Luckily my sense of concentration held for trying things on, but I was certainly not on my A Game when it came to getting made up. I forgot to put on mascara and I’m not sure I used the same eyeshadows on each eye. There is definitely something off in the state of Lynmark.

Well Mr Jones, when did you notice issues with your mental faculties and concentration span?”

“It was last week, Doctor. I was trying to get a daytime smokey eye look…. Ah, I appear to have outed myself again.” ๐Ÿ˜‰

Other than the tiredness and fashion show for one, not much else to report. Given how things have gone health-wise, perhaps that’s not a bad thing! How folk who are proper poorly (like Mrs J) manage, I just don’t know. Gin? ๐Ÿ™‚

Here’s hoping a weekend helps things come back.

L x


  1. Glad it was a good night for you! I thoroughly enjoyed it!

    And your combo was really very nice, I assumed it was a standby one because it looked almost effortless and very comfortable. Can’t comment on the eye-shadow but I guess if it were mis-matched I would I have noticed and I didn’t (though I’m not on my game either: a student had changed hair-style and it took me two days to notice!!). On shapes: I am always struck by the fact that you have such a well-defined one when I see you, for whatever that is worth! ๐Ÿ™‚

    I know what you mean about feeling you’re not recovering quickly enough too. All I can say is, it’s wrong when I say that to myself so it naturally follows that you should (ha) be kind to yourself.

    1. Meeting with like minded folk seems to work wonders. I feel it’s not just the support of the group, but a sense of belonging as well. The latter doesn’t seem so readily available in Cisville. Good to hear you enjoyed it too.

      I’m hoping the weekend helps in terms of health. You’re right in that being kind to yourself is key. I guess, I’m just a bit ‘Really, infection? Can’t you just do one?!’ ๐Ÿ™‚

      FWIW, the outfit was comfortable. I am… a bit fussy when it comes to materials and textures. Some synthetic fibres can be a bit rough or they, -ahem-, make you glow where you would rather not. ๐Ÿ˜ It wasn’t a standby, although there’s a similar wrap cardy + cami + skirt combination I’ve worn before. Variations on a theme FTW

  2. It’s definitely not enough for me to look fem; I really want to look pretty. I sometimes have to take hundreds of selfies to find the nice ones! But it’s a never-ending source of surprise that I can achieve something pretty without having to hire makeup artists who work for Peter Jackson!

    1. Good to read that you do find a good photo. Something to remember the event by. Plus, should it be not quite what you’d hoped, at least there’s a chance to reflect and learn. Tricky things photos, IMO.

      Femme seems to be the aim and, personally, if I manage to feel pretty, that’s a really good place to be. One of self acceptance and I think to look back on when I’m feeling more Orcish ๐Ÿ˜‰

  3. Well, no one can fault you for not putting a lot of thought into your look, which is always a winner whilst being genuine. You know, not the ‘trashy tranny’ look so beloved of many, but not mumsy either. It’s a nice outfit you’ve got in your photo.

    Sorry that you’re still not 100%. Probably one of these slow, debilitating viruses that go on for weeks. I’m just about getting over the cough that started five years ago! After a few weeks of it I saw the doctor. “Well,” she said, “coughs are tricky.” Yes, doc, that’s why I’m pestering you!

    So I’m hoping you’ll be fit soon. If laughter is your kind of medicine then I must post more jokes to my jokebook for you. Although some friends have threatened suicide if I tell any more. Just a health warning there!

    Sue x

    1. If the infection stays another week, I might give it a name. Well, one that can be printed without asterisks at least. ๐Ÿ™‚ I think you can’t fault it for effort: it’s been over a month and two different antibiotics as well. Then again, your five year situation seems more like adoption than an infection. ๐Ÿ™ Hopefully the specialists find a way forward.

      “Although some friends have threatened….”

      Well, it’s nice to be appreciated isn’t it? ๐Ÿ˜ Talking of jokes, I read that the talented and amazingly funny Barry Crier passed away this week. Reading about him, it was very clear how supportive he was to other comics and what an amazing talent he had for writing as well. Truly one of the greats.

      Thanks for the kind words about the outfit. You might think that after – good grief – over three decades of interest in female fashion and whatever many hours (days?) that falls into around practice, that I’d have a bit more confidence about it. But, no, I still get doubts. Perhaps that’s why I try? Try to get it right, at least for me.

      As to ‘trashy’, hmm…. It’s a tricky one. People – and I don’t just mean T folk – dress the way they do for all sorts of reasons and that changes with time/situation. I think it’s about wearing things that make you feel good about yourself and that bring out your best qualities. Women seen to get so much judgement on how they look as well.

  4. Glad to read that you did manage to get out for Chams. I did wonder if guilt about the long time off work might have prompted you to skip it (“If I’m not well enough to go to work then I shouldn’t be going out for time for myself”. Or is that just me?)
    Glad to hear that sense and Mr J – which are sounding more and more like the same thing – prevailed, and as Mr J points out, Chams is support and therefore a bit of therapy that will hopefully help get you back on track.
    Nice outfit. And you wouldn’t believe the mess I made trying to do close-lining before the second cup of coffee. Thank god for cotton buds.

    1. Yeah, the ‘not well enough for school, not well enough for blah’ certainly sent through my head. I said as much to Mrs J and she said she’d had similar thoughts about herself over the years. So, no, I guess not just you either! ๐Ÿ™‚ However, it’s not like I was out on the pop, but sat listening and talking with folk in a support group.

      Sorry to hear about the makeup issue. Hopefully the cotton buds rescued the situation.

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