How’s things? Hopefully good and if not, let’s cross our fingers and maybe they’ll turn that way soon.
By random happenstance, I stumbled upon this article: the difference between reacting and responding. Well worth a read in my opinion and YATGB can certainly wait if you want to read it first. If you don’t, my takeaway from it was self care – and perhaps for others too – by giving yourself time to respond to something after thinking.
It seems that in short media posts, clickbait, tweets, and manipulative headlines, well, it seems hard not to react a lot of the time. But, yet, in recent months I’ve found myself taking a deep breath, allowing myself an eye roll, and deciding not to have my emotional buttons pushed. But good grief, it can be difficult since days. 😉
Looking away from external nonsense, what about the internal dialogue? I’ve written before about only trying to talk to yourself as a friend, and perhaps there’s also an element of not reacting to your emotions. I don’t mean in a Vulcan stylee (there’s two references that’ll age me 😉), but deciding to give the emotion some time to filter through our mind and, maybe, deciding not to feel too much.
i know that on bad days, certain things can cause negative feelings to spike. Mild dysphoria because, thankfully, I think I’ve tried to made peace with what I am physically and mentally. But, emotions rarely follow structured thought, IMO, and there’s been times when I’ve felt vulnerable about how I look, and the sound of heels, a scent of perfume, or the swing of someone’s hair…. these things can remind me just how male I am. That’s the difficult bit.
But, with a deep breath and focusing on what’s going well, that seems to keep the positive vibes to the front. Sure, I may not be fancy today, but I will be later in the week. To count one’s blessing really does seem to help. Deciding not to look at what I don’t have, bit thinking on what I do. Maybe painted toes, smooth pins, or remembering I have a choice in these matters.