Year: 2020

Lessons Learned: Part V – Being Okay

Lessons Learned

Hi, If I look back to the memories of the emotions I had when i started this blog, I was very much up and down about my dressing. Okay, mostly down which was not a good thing. Getting by with occasional dressing before work, frantically clearing away all signs, sneaking time to buy things, and trying to live in just one gender. Moments snatched in a busy life and feelings of shame or guilt around who I was. Not a rollercoaster ride I would recommend. I think there’s a line between privacy, personal space, and hidden secrets. To live a life where a person must constantly check what they say, hide who they are: what type of life is that? […]

Read more

Lessons Learned: Part IV – Wigs

Lessons Learned

Hi, If I was a sci-fi nerd, I’d make a joke asking if this is a New Hope? Ah, but perhaps my comedic powers are weak (old man) and the Farce is not yet strong in this one…. Okay, I’ll get my cloak. Sorry, coat 😉 Over the last few posts, I’ve talked about trying to make sense of things, personal style, and shopping. Indeed, some of you were kind enough to chip in with your own stories and comments, which I think makes this little ol’ blog a bit less one sided. Hair By this, I mean on your head. Maybe we’ll talk about body hair and personal grooming another time. On my time on this planet I’ve had […]

Read more

Lessons Learned: Part III – Shopping

Lessons Learned

Hi, Last time I wrote about finding what works for you from a style point of view. That style may change based on what you’re up to, as your tastes change, or as your confidence grows. All that aside, knowing what works for you and actually getting hold of things leads to the heady world of shopping… Real World Shopping What about trying things on? Well, the old school Jeans on Top of the Stash hack works in most mixed gender stores. Supermarkets, out of town clothing barns, certain department stores, etc. Work you way through the clothing section of your choice, pick up a few items, and then drop a jumper or a pair of jeans from the section […]

Read more

Lessons Learned: Part II – Style

Lessons Learned

Hi, If, like I was as a kid, you’re not great with Roman numerals welcome to part eye eye 😉 Where were we? Oh yes, things learned along the way. Finding your style A key part of expressing who we are is how we dress. Even choosing not to be bothered about creating a certain look is, ironically, a decision. When you’re on the Trans spectrum, clothing can be freeing, comfortable, joyful, oppressive, or, if you’re unlucky, just plain wrong. A lot of it comes down to context and there’s times when what’s okay one day, is not on another. Not just for us, but partners if we’re a relationship. Finding out what works for you is a long game. […]

Read more

Lessons Learned: Part I – Acceptance

Lessons Learned

Hi, As I put the blog anniversary post together the other day, I found a few features that I didn’t know this platform could do. The use of a widget to put a photo in the Recent Posts and also one to do galleries in a cool way. Well, I thought it was cool. Maybe I’m just not ‘down wid the kidz, yo’ 😉 Looking at the photos over the last fifteen years, I reflected on what had I learned? This isn’t to say these are great revelations, Thou Shalt Do This, or that these will work for everyone. It’s more, stuff I’ve found out along the way. If you can learn something from my mistakes or by following along, […]

Read more

Fifteen Years Later

Uncategorized

Hi, A blog post of two parts today 🙂 Blog History Back in October 2005, a young (ish) chap sat with his back to the garden, in a room that’s no longer there. Autumn sunlight glowed against the wallpaper, but the man was lost in his thoughts, staring at the computer’s bulky monitor. Should he press ‘post’ or not? There’s a dilemma of the modern world many folk don’t have 😉 The computer, the wallpaper, and that room have all gone – renovations and recycling – but somehow, this blog remains. Yes, I’ve switched platforms, yet it’s the same old weekly posts. Well, occasional midweek ones, this year too. Various topics of reflection, sharing, trying to change things, and – […]

Read more