A series of lessons


After last week’s post in which I reset and started over, you’d think that I’d start to keep a note of ideas. An idea came to me as I was listening to the radio and driving to work. Ah, I must put that on a slip of paper, I thought to myself… and then promptly forgot. Gah! I guess this is what separates the triers from the capable, eh? Still, lessons learned! Note to self: make a note quickly. 🙂

The long drought of all Jack and no Jill – I so hope that’s not slang for something kinky – has been broken, as it was Chameleons in what was starting to feel like an age. So it goes sometimes, that occasional fall of the month, in which it’s more than two weeks between meetings.

I don’t know about the rest of you, but I try to think on the positive. Ponder outfits to wear, keep an eye on the shops and try not to listen to the Green Eyed Monster when someone fancier than you, strolls by.


In a related note, a researcher contacted the group many months ago and after – well, I guess, much work – it was now ready and I passed it around on social media. Social media: the thing you use when you’re not socialising with the people you’re with. It’s a strange beast 😉

Where was I? Oh yes, research. So the item in question did seem to cover some coping strategies. One of them was throwing yourself into a computer game (clearly, not literally). Now, I do like to play big, open world games. Epics like Fall Out, Skyrim or the Saints Row series. The latter, if you’ve not had the pleasure is a delightfully tongue-in-cheek riff on the Grand Theft Auto, only with a massive dose of irony and complete irreverence for its setting. Where else can you witness a Disney-esq musical number between Satan and the Princess of Hell? Quality…. and available on YouTube, should you not have played the game.

I’d like to think I don’t play obsessively. I do drop back on what little TV I watch and that’s not saying much. Most of my viewing is now via Netflix or Amazon and that’s with Wee Man and I on a film night. We did binge watch I, Zombie, which is rather good.

One think I have noticed, is that I usually play a female character. While you could play the trans card, I just find it harder to identify with a big, buff male character and, as most of the games I play seem to be aimed at the male market – hello, dual gender issues 🙂 – playing as a female character can give you an edge. Plus, if I’m going to be seeing the back of someone’s head or their booty for a couple of hours, rather a shapely derrière than some jar-head’s fat arse. 😉


New skinny jeans

As I finished locking up downstairs, I found Pat, Val and Fyona were hanging around chatting, while I slipped back into him mode. Given it takes 10 – 15 minutes to pack everything away and take all my slap off, it’s a nice way to end the evening. Pat asked if Val and I had taken our snaps and then, what did we do with them?

Val said for her, it was a way of working out which outfits worked and I can agree with that. For me, it’s partly that, and a mix of capturing the moment (I take a lot of family photos), working out which outfits work (and which don’t) and also to share. The latter may seem a little odd, but then quite possibly no odder than typing madly every Friday night for goal, nor profit, to complete strangers for the last 10 years…. 🙂 On a related note, a few folk at Chams have been kind enough to say nice things about this old blog. Mostly around the humour, so hopefully something’s going right.

Weak gags aside, I was surprised to find female friends taking snaps of their outfit pre- and post-night out. I had, perhaps wrongly, assumed the outing photo to be mostly a trans thing, but then, with the previous happening, I’ve started to reconsider. Not that I find this validates the hackneyed “Oh, that must make me female”, but that gender may well be far more complicated than I’d previously considered. Again, lessons learned.



  1. I can certainly relate to video games being a form of escapism. As I think I said once before, Fallout 3 was a godsend for me in that regard when I discovered it a few years back (thanks to my brother lending me his copy). At the time, life was seriously sucking for me for a variety of reasons, and I found that game providing a very welcome escape from reality. Modern video games can often do that, I've found – they're so detailed and immersive that you really do end up feeling like you've entered another world when you play them. Another game that made me feel that way was Grand Theft Auto: Vice City (which I finally got around to playing after having bought it, oh, about a decade earlier!); by the time I'd finished it, its setting had come to feel like a real place I'd actually spent a couple of weeks holidaying in (would've been a pretty wild holiday, though)!

    Unfortunately, one thing that's turned me off gaming lately is the fact that all games now seem to come encumbered with a heap of stupid DRM that, in many cases, renders them all but unplayable (way to punish honest customers!)*. (And no, I don't want to have to create a stupid Steam account just to be able to play a game I forked over my hard-earned money for**!) This is a shame because, yeah, gaming has brought me a lot of pleasure over the years, and I hate feeling I have to give it up.

    Like you, I prefer playing as female characters, which I definitely think is somehow trans-related in my own case. For example, each of the times I played Fallout 3 all the way through, I did so as a girl (the first time, I called myself Zigglezar, just to see if my "father" would say it during the scene of my birth – sadly, however, he did not), and I remember Sonya being my favourite character from the original Mortal Kombat (now that's going way back!).

    Never played any of the Saints Row games, but the aforementioned brother is a big fan of them. And yeah, according to him, one of the great things about them is how silly they are (one of his fondest memories of them is having his character use an oversized dildo as a weapon!). I sort of got the impression they weren't all that serious, though, the first time I saw a screenshot from one of them, the image in question showing a bunch of criminals dressed in brightly-coloured animal costumes taunting the police!

    *One of the best things I've ever heard DRM likened to is a bouncer who stands outside your front door, and asks to see ID before he'll let you into your own house. No matter how friendly or cool he may be, sooner or later you're going to wish he'd just sod off!

    **One of the best things I've heard said about Steam is that if ordinary DRM is like being kicked in the crotch, DRM as Steam does it is like being kicked in the crotch as well, only you're allowed to hold a cushion in front of the aforementioned body part first, and you get a piece of cake afterwards! In other words, it may make the whole experience slightly less sucky, but you'd still rather not go through it at all!

    1. Ah, Fallout 3, such a good game. They really made a great job of that. Did you ever play New Vegas, BTW?

      As to DRM. I've yet – touch wood – had any problems. Well, I did have one game, XIII I think, which wouldn't play if you had a CDR drive. Yeah, well done. :- Luckily I had a spare DVD drive installed – yes, we're going back a bit – but that short-sightedness caused various problems for people with legitimate copies of the software. So, Steam, I don't mind so much. 🙂

    2. Never played New Vegas, unfortunately, though I've heard people speak very highly of it. I've also heard good things said about Fallout 4, though I've not played that either. I think another problem I have now wrt games is that my computer is probably getting too old to play most new ones. I'm still using a system I put together in 2010, and am even still using XP (which, funnily enough, I put off getting for as long as I possibly could)! I dunno, my setup still works well enough for the things I generally use a computer for, and the horror stories I've heard about some of the more recent versions of Windows have put me off updating my operating system!

      On the subject of Fallout, I did get copies of the original games in that franchise (1, 2 and Tactics), though was disappointed to discover they're nothing like Fallout 3. Also, for some utterly idiotic reason, the boxed set they came in didn't include instructions for any of them, so I really have no idea how to play them anyway!

    3. NV has its moments. My only gripe is that the main antagonists are really obvious. I felt in the previous game, Fallout 3, that it was more shaded. Yes, there were some 'bad guys' but it didn't feel as obvious.

      Wee Man has Fallout 4 and a few work mates have put a few hours into playing it. Like you, I hear really good things. Maybe I should heed the words of an old colleague and go down the console route: less drivers to faff with, less updates and longer hardware life. Not quite really to splash the cash tho.

      As to Windows, I can see why you stuck on XP. For a lot of people, it did all they needed, so why change? Vista was a bit of a mess, IMHO, although W7 worked a treat. W10 is good in that it's a fast starter and fairly robust. I think after the Start Menu fiasco, MS had to get it right, or IOS/Android were going to lay waste to them. MS have changed direction in the last few years and it's had a big effect on work. Others may argue they reacted to the W8 bloody nose, the threat from smartphones and the rise of cloud computing (Amazon). It's always 'interesting times' in the technology sector 😉

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