The thing with skipping lunch, is I don’t feel guilty when I go home a little earlier than scheduled. Ah, those dinner time meetings, where you’re told to bring a snack and *ahem* man up. I’ve never asked, but I assume any women attending the meeting, must draw on a ‘tache, with either mascara or a rare-as-rocking-horse-poo whiteboard marker.
Oddly, HR don’t seem to quite so on board with a) people not taking a break, and b) said people then sloping off early as they feel they’ve done their hours. Still, HR’s there to protect the business, not necessarily the individual. Shame, but there you go.
So, due to a lunchtime meeting being my meal ticket home – see what I did there? 🙂 – I had the radio on, as I drove through the emptier than usual roads. I forget the programme, but the discussion was about conspiracy theories. Don’t worry, I’m not about to talk about the moon landings, 9/11 or what Big Pharma’s planning for us. 🙂
The presenter was talking about how conspiracy theories start and how they gain traction. One of the ways this happens, and the Internet is fantastic at doing this, is like-minded people meet and start to repeat the story back to each other. The echo-chamber effect, if you will. It’s not new and it quite probably existed before the Internet, but I think it’s presence is felt more readily on-line.
How does this apply to being trans? Well, we have forums, blogs and social media, just like everyone else. What can happen, is the someone posts about their gender issues and then the process starts. Live your life, just do it; all positive affirmation and consequences be damned. In fairness, over the last few years – although maybe it’s the circles I move in (I’m old, so I’m not down with the kids) – there seems to be the voices of reason. I’d capitalise the latter, but it would make the line seem about a metal band. 😉
The voices of reason, they sing a different tune – damn, I’ve done it again 🙂 – *ahem* They say something different: they suggest caution and taking things slowly. For some, this is just what they need to hear and just what they want to hear. For others, they want the Just Do It message, and to dive in. That’s cool too, but personally, I do like to have a good long look, a think and a few cups of tea, before I leap. Well, I say leap, it’s more like stepping off and dropping gracefully. At least, as much as a 40 something, tubby guy can do. Look out, below! INCOMING! 🙂
So, if there is a point to this Friday night rambling of mine, it’s do stop and think. Being trans, it may feel all about you, but it isn’t. Am I saying bottle things up and stop, for the sake of others? No, I’ll not say that. What I will say, is don’t rush in and pause, to consider the consequences. Frequently, there’s often another way, which will be the easier route.