Well, that’s the first week in the new job, in the bag. So far, so good, which makes for a very nice change. Sure, the pace is a little more frantic, but there’s more doing than to-ing & fro-ing, which, for me at least, is a good thing. Fingers crossed the good luck continues for a little longer.
Thursday was my bi-monthly big night out and despite leaving a little later than usual, the traffic pixies were with me and I wasn’t too late arriving. I caught up with friends and conversation ranged from how people are doing, to another research group request and a question around ‘how do blokes behave?’ Well, perhaps the blokes at Chams are not the best source of advice on the latter. 🙂
|Typical bloke’s night out at Chams
Pic by Val.
How do regular men behave? Well, as Alison pointed out, there are stereotypical behaviours that some blokes do, but that’s more a pastiche, rather than an accurate description of what it is to be a man. As far as I know, most of the menfolk in my family and my workmates, aren’t trans; and while there is the occasional episode of drinking, very mild laddishness and occasional roving eye; everyone is much more than just a bunch of lazy pin-the-tag-on-the-geezer.
My father-in-law loves watching sport and does a bit of gardening to stop the back of the house looking like a jungle. My Dad doesn’t watch any sport and is a keen gardener. Both of them love reading, eating out and gadgets.
My workmates are IT folk, so there’s an element of gadgetry, tinkering with technology, but that’s not their main characteristics. They all have a very good sense of humour (I know, IT folk eh? :-P), two love cooking, one jogging, one reading, one very heavy metal and another football and dog walking.
Even if I reverse right back and try and bunch them into a Venn diagram of generic tags, it’s very tricky. I mean, and if you forgive a reiteration of my glib comment about not being the best example of a bloke, what is it to be male in today’s world? We’re meant to be gentlemen, at least, if you’re British. I’d say if my Dad taught me just one thing, it’s that manners and politeness cost nothing.
I’ve read that men are supposed to be more caring. Take a look at the whole New Man media hype in the 90s and then the more appearance focused sibling, the Metrosexual, about a decade later. I’m not sure about either label: to me it means I’ve got a little more social acceptance to cry during kids films and not be ribbed for using an exfoliator and moisturising. 🙂
I’ve heard that men are angrier than women and maybe that’s true. Maybe it’s more a case that men feel they can express their anger more freely than women. I don’t know. I don’t work closely enough with a number of women to make a call on that. Maybe we’re all people when it comes down to it and the labels we stick on ourselves, or that are stuck to us, are just that. Labels that will come off in the wash, or, like clothes, change when we get home, or go out.
Whichever way you want to be, stay safe. 🙂