This week’s been rather odd. Not in a dodgy way, but more in a blogging kinda way. This will be my third post that I’ve started. Sometimes the writing bug bites and it seems there’s lots I want to get out of my head and on to paper… so to speak. 🙂 It’s not exactly like a lot has actually happened: no ground breaking changes or shifts in the whole trans experience.
I was going to say that maybe I’ll store those posts up, but actually, I don’t think that’ll happen. I’ll probably come to look at them in a week or so, re-read what I’ve put and delete them. Perfectionism? Maybe, but if something doesn’t feel quite right, I won’t post it.
Talking of not posting – funny how my brain works – one of the topics of a previous entry was just that. All the things I don’t talk about. Not so much the private things such as what the Ever Lovely Mrs Jones gets up to, or how the kids are doing at school. No… more the big stuff. Things that happen in the news, even – dare I say it? – chunks of time that will become history.
On one hand, I think that this blog is in some way a bit of a backwater. I don’t talk about the big stuff like the recent wars, the election or the small bumps of public upset: MP expenses, the outcry over the column by the Daily Mail on the late Stephen Gately, etc.
On the other: there are news sites (and blogs) who dedicate themselves to this task and really, will adding my voice to that throng help at all? I doubt it. So, instead I stick to writing about what I know: trans related issues.
Hell, I don’t write about my IT stuff, but then do you really want to hear about what I get up to at work? It’s important to my employer and I put my back into it, but it wouldn’t make very interesting reading. That and there are some excellent technical ‘how to’ sites out there that would teach you a lot more.
So…. trying to get back towards the whole trans topic, there are a few wee gems that have popped up this week. Firstly, it was time for a night out with the.. ummm… boys? at Chameleons this Thursday. It was a quiet night – at least compared to last time’s party, but I like the quiet nights too. We had a good long chat and swapped amusing anecdotes. It was, simply, just good fun.
We also had a visit from one of the people who shares the Centre with us. To be accurate, the Karate folk have the Centre before Chams and they’re often packing up as some of us turn up. It’s all very good natured and as everything at Chams is on the level, we don’t – or at least I hope we don’t – give them any concern.
Anyways, one lady – whose name I shall not reveal – popped in to offer us some raffle tickets. We obliged and as the tickets and kitty went around, her curiosity was piqued and she asked a few questions.
Do we consider ourselves to be women?
I said, some may do but I don’t. I’m still a guy under all the clothes.
Do we want to change sex?
Me? No thanks but some folk do. Most of the people at Chams are crossdressers or ‘part-timers’, although we do have one or two folk who are transitioning / fulltime.
Outwardly – and I mean from appearance only – is there a difference a TV and a TS? From the layman’s view of someone who doesn’t know much about the whole trans community, I guess we all look a bit alike. Maybe that’ll ruffle a few feathers, maybe it won’t, but that’s seems a common question for non-trans folk to ask.
Would you live full time if you could?
Personally, no I wouldn’t. I like being a guy. The beauty routine is a hell of a lot easier to start with 🙂 Cack jokes aside: I’m a Dad and while I don’t mind getting glammed up once in a while, I think it would kill the fun of it, if I had to do it day in day out. I suppose that why I’m just a part-timer. 🙂
Would you have any surgery? Boob implants or electrolysis?
Some might do, but I don’t fancy permanent boobs. I spend more time in bloke mode and I don’t think your off the rail shirt and tie are cut for a 34b 🙂 Beard zapping? A lot of trans folk have sung the praises of laser therapy, but it’s out of my price range right now. I’m not particularly hairy and the one time I tried to grow a beard – just for the craic – it didn’t get very long. Heh, it didn’t really show up on photos either – I just looked worn out. LOL.
Do our wives know and what do they think of it?
The Ever Lovely Mrs Jones does know, but I don’t tell her how I look nor has she seen me. I do know that Sandy (Tracey’s Mrs) did make that jump as have other ladies (or ‘real girls’) who attend the group with their partners. Does Mrs Jones mind? I wouldn’t say she’s over the moon about it, but think we’ve got by the point where it freaks her out. Bless her, it must have been a shock.
Interestingly, Jane turned the question around and ask the Karate lady what would she think if her husband started to want to dress up. 🙂 The lady in question said it wouldn’t be too much of a worry. How things change he?
Do you wear her clothes? Where do you get your underwear?
No, I’ve got my own wardrobe because shopping can be rather fun. As to underwear, you just go and buy it from a shop. No-one’s bothered these days. 🙂 I am wearing Mrs Jones’s boots tho!
Questions aside, it was all very good-natured and as I say, we’ve – trans folk that is – been in the Centre for nearly 5 years or so. I think they’ve got used to us 😀
In other news, Channel 4 ran a programme called “8 and wanting a sex change.” It was about a number of American children who had started using hormone blockers at a young age. The idea behind the treatment was to (obviously) halt puberty, give them time to decide if they wanted to stick with their birth gender or transition. If they did the latter – and I’m not expert – but my guess it would be easier. It was a really fascinating programme, both from the side of the child (who must be going through a hell of time) and also from the view of their parents.
I think we’re all wise to the idea of a parent being distraught or negative about it: it’s a stereotypical reaction. Instead, this programme let the parents talk of their concerns and on the whole, they were very supportive of their child who wanted this. Maybe the programme was skewed in that regard: would a parent who was against the idea appear on such a show? I’ll let you catch it on ‘4 On Demand’ or YouTube (if it sneaks in there) and you can make up your own mind 🙂 It certainly caused a bit of chatter on the forums.
All in all, a good week. Halloween soon and later on it’s Bonfire Night. I do love autumn!
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