“You’re the other side of the world to me”

Hey peeps,

Good week? I hope so.

So what’s been going on in GenderLand then? Well, I was going to talk about spring cleaning and ‘are you a hoarder’ after I finally had a chuck out. It seems that spring has arrived because some of the other ladies from Chams had been doing the same thing. Ah, we’re just a slave to the seasons both in terms of fashion… and tidying up. 🙂

This weeks Chams was different for two reasons, firstly we had guests (more on that later) and as Sandi & Tracey where away, I had to open up. I must confess I was a bit nervous about it, but I’d got everything ready the night before, so I just needed to put the kids to bed, grab my bag and head off. I arrived quite early and there was no-one about. I put the milk away, got the signing in book from the cupboard and waited. I waited a bit more and I got that creeping doubt that I’d got the date wrong. Have you ever arrived to a meeting early and wondered if you’d got the right room or wrong time? Well, that was me.

I got tired to waiting and checked the book. Luckily, some kind soul had written the dates in there and it was the right day. Phew! So, as no-one was about, I thought I’d get changed in the side room behind the bar. I could hear who may come in and I wouldn’t be out of sight of the money I’d put down. Of course, as soon as I started to put my face on (that’s not as HellRaiser as it sounds), there was a knock at the door and Val wanted to be let in. Hurray! Company!!

Talking of company – and no names this time – we had two guests. A very nice couple who’d come along to ask questions about one of their relations. Their relation had recently come out to them as being TG and they wanted to learn about it. So we made them a drink (thanks Val!) and sat down and had a good old chat about the subject. They said that they knew very little about it and if it hadn’t been for the Internet and the help of a friend they’d never have found the group or the knowledge they were looking for. I was surprised – and a little disappointed – to hear that they’d mailed other social groups and had nothing back. Oh, the perils of email eh?

It was a very interesting meeting because you don’t get – well, not often – to engage with Jo(e) Public on such a level. Last night all sides got to ask and get the answers to various questions. It wasn’t all serious and we had a few laughs along the way. I hope they left with a little less worry than when they came in.

Normally Chams is about a cup of tea and a chat. I know that may sound a tad dull to those of you who’d prefer a drink and a disco, but it’s a great place to meet up with people who are like you. There’s a lot to be said about a sense of community. Anyhoo, the last meeting was very much your classic ‘support’ meeting rather than a social. I left feeling happy to have met up with my friends and also hoping that they’d left feeling more positive.

Take care,

[ Today’s lyric: Other side of the World by K T Tunstall ]


  1. Life gets stale pretty quick without the unexpeted, doesn’t it?
    Apparently there are more people being touched by gender issues who are intelligently seeking information rather than sweeping it under the rug. Its good your visitors and you had such a positive experience. 🙂

  2. Leah > LOL. It all goes on in the suburbs doesn’t it! 😀

    Rachel > Heh. That’s a good one! Dear Mavis…

    Emma > I think people are curious – and not in a ‘freak show’ kinda way either. I think as more people feel they can come out, so people outside the TG world will find themselves involved.

    They were a lovely couple and very brave for coming along.

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