On the Turn

Hi, Not just a new year but a decade as well. What will the next ten years bring? I’m hopeful for greater stability and compassion, but those in charge may feel and act differently. While doing things on a wide scale may feel beyond us, there are things we can do for ourselves. I’m not suggesting throwing caution to the wind, but I am saying with the new year’s energy behind you, taking steps to explore your gender identity can be done. You don’t need to have a full wardrobe, be amazing at makeup (I know I’m still learning), or out. You don’t need to be sure if you’re genderfluid, bi-gender, crossdressing, or anywhere else on the trans spectrum. I […]

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Starting: Coming Out

Hi, Not so long ago, someone asked about ideas or help around coming out. It’s been a long time since I’ve had to do it, but it’s something that comes up in the Chameleons email and other places too. So, here are a few thoughts on the subject. Aims: Do you know what you want to get out of coming out? If you are coming out to a partner, how long have you kept this from them? Is all of this new to you too? Try to be realistic and think of what you’d both be happy with: after all, there are two of you in this relationship. If it’s not to a partner, what does the other person get […]

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