TDoV 2021


On March 31st each year it’s the international Transgender Day of Visibility. Unlike the day of remembrance later in the year, today is a today to talk about the achievements of our community.

I think it is worth noting that to those of you on the transgender spectrum and allies as well, have a moment to reflect on your achievements. I don’t say this to butter you up with false praise, but that small acts of kindness and perhaps more than ever this year, being present is a form of activism. Equally, if you are helping someone else – be they trans, a friend of someone, or a would-be ally – you are doing excellent work. It all counts to keeping us visible.

By helping others achieve, in challenging bigotry, pushing for change, and being visible – online and otherwise – I believe you help raise our profile. I think it’s often too easy for someone to say that unless we’re out & proud, we’re not doing enough. However, it’s not always easy to be at the front. Some folk have commitments and other factors that stop them from being directly involved and I think that’s okay.

Meanwhile, in 2019

While that strong voice is needed, if you are visible and showing the community in a good light, you are helping. Be brave, be fabulous, and be kind. ♥️

L x

PS: the above photo was from a day out in a nearby city. I make no grand claims by being out – if I can, you certainly can – and when I’m in public, I try to be relaxed and kind, hopefully as a challenge to the false rhetoric of the danger trans people. We’re not a threat, we don’t recruit, and we just want to enjoy our lives with no need to hide away. Perhaps, just like the next person 🙂


  1. Time for some praise: I’m impressed you’re still blogging regularly. Good work, keep it up. Also top work on being an active member of Chams. Any time you feel imposter syndrome rearing it’s ugly head, remember how many people’s quality of life you improve by maintaining that <3

    We also get disadvantage on stealth rolls today 😉

    1. Gosh, uhh, thanks, Pandora. I wasn’t quite expecting that! Thank you for those beautifully kind words. ♥️ The blogging is just one post at a time and making notes when I’m lucky to have an idea. I still miss your blog.

      Chams is quite the team effort, a wonderful blend of folk coming together to keep the group ticking over. COVID19 may have knocked our ability to meet in the real world, but I think our luck is turning.

      What RPG system are we using for stealth checks this week? 😁 Just asking so I know what stat I need to buff or if I need to put +4 into my disguise skills. 😉

    1. /sighs 🙂 There is a view held by a minority of people, that trans folk are looking to gain access to female spaces to prey on women. There’s no evidence to back this up. Since the UK has had the Equality Act since 2010, this hasn’t happened and other European countries report a similar level of unsubstantiated claims.

      Listening to my wife, colleagues, friends, etc; women are under threat from predatory men and “everyday sexism”. Funny how the same folk who are concerned about access to toilets remain silent on that. 😔 IMO, it’s a false narrative that has more to do with instilling fear. If you look at the arguements presented, there’s an almost lockstep if you compare what was said about gay people in the 80s.

      I think Laverne Cox summed it well with: “We have to be able to ask ourselves, ‘Am I feeling uncomfortable or am I feeling unsafe? And is my uncomfortability going to impede on the rights of other people?”

      1. Thank you for taking the time and trouble to explain that, I honestly did not understand, I do now.

        I can see the argument from both sides, although I don’t know what the solution is.

        We should all have the right to use the toilet, go about our lives without the fear of harassment, being bullied, humiliated etc

        1. You’re very welcome. There are multiple view points to the situation, although the hostility is very much the minority – a very vocal minority that is being amplified within certain sectors of the media and politics.

          The dark side to this is that it perpetuates a narrow form of womanhood. Specifically women who prefer a butch, androgynous, or non-binary look. Then there’s the unpleasant “I don’t think she should come in because I think she looks like a man.” So, you can only use that loo if you’re the right type of woman?

          In this type of discrimination, many people lose including those who need to be protected.

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