Barriers

Hi, How to start this one? At the weekend the rumour mill started to rumble about the possibility that our current government may seek to protect women by ensuring men do not enter ladies’ toilets. Just what the government will do about the assaults, improper contact, and domestic abuse women are subject to outside of the toilet facilities, they remained oddly silent. So, what does a part time trans person like myself do when they feel the call of nature? Ideally, find a gender neutral toilet. You know, just like the one we have in our homes. If the facilities are general use then I feel I’m unlikely to cause anyone distress. I know, thinking of others right? I must […]

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Voting with your purse

Hi, In the village not far from us, there’s a choice of two shops. The Co-op and not the Co-op. I’m not going to give the latter some free advertising and this post is about that. I don’t usually buy from the other shop, but the Co-Op didn’t have what I needed. As I stood in the socially distanced queue, I noticed some rainbow flags draped around the tills. Proudly supporting LGBTQ+ they proclaimed. Ah, how awesome. Funny. They seemed also to be stocking three red top ‘newspapers’ who have a very poor track record on LGBTQ+ matters. Hmm. That took the shine off a bit. When I got to the singular cashier, we did the usual How Are Yous, […]

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Magical

Hi, Long time readers will know I’m not on Twitter, Facebook, etc, although I do pop up on Reddit from time to time. You may have seen the long term story around J K Rowling’s tweets and allegations around her support of gender critical views. I’m not going to go into that here. What I am going to mention, is Daniel Radcliffe’s article over on the Trevor Project. Frankly, it is a beautifully written, positive, and supportive piece. Its eloquence lies in what the much loved Harry Potter stories mean to young fans, some of which may be somewhere along the Trans spectrum, and how such a discussion around the author’s views may be affecting their love of the stories. […]

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Winging it

Hi, A few weeks back, I was listening to colleague talk about their worries. It wasn’t long before they mentioned Imposter Syndrome. Perhaps you’ve had a visit from this irksome whisperer: they will find you out, they know you don’t know, everyone’s on it except you… It was mentioned in the Chams forum by Midnight, and that jogged my memory of the above. Like many folks, I’ve felt the proverbial whisperings. When I’m writing this stuff, when I’m working with the team at work, or when I get ready in Lynn mode. Before heading out, my hand has waivered by the handle: am I ready to face the world? or who am I to lead a talk on being trans? […]

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Don’t be that.

Hi, As a straight white bloke from a middle class background, I think I’ve got a fair old chuck of privilege. The schools were pretty good where I was born, my folks cared for me, and despite some minor bullying/outing, I passed through life pretty easily all things considered. No one yells abuse of “go back home”. People don’t tell me smile more. I don’t get leered at, touched up, groped, or have my chest stared at. I don’t fear for my safety when the night draws in. People don’t look at me like I’m a criminal or a terrorist. People listen to me because I’m a man. If I was to be stopped by the Police, I’d be nervous, […]

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