What works for you

Hi,

I almost called today’s post To Bare Arms or Hair Today, but I guess there’s plenty of beauty salons that have similar names. They do love a pun it seems.

Earlier this week, I happened to fall upon an interview with someone who’d given up on leg hair removal and embraced her body as is (Source: A moment that changed me, The Guardian). You don’t have to have read that to read the rest of this, but I would say the interview and upbeat experience may chime with you too. Or not 😉 We’re all different.

As i finished reading it, I was struck thinking that it was good to know someone had found what worked for them. It is their body and their choice, right? Why should Shah have to conform?

I found that other than being happy to read someone had found their mojo, that much of what Shah said about her confidence and self acceptance stayed with me. Okay, from the other direction – not being hairy – bit still the similar.

As age, medication, and/or infrequent epilation takes its toll, my leg hair is finer and paler. I’ve said before that the outside parts of my shins have gone bald, but the leg hair around the knee and thigh areas are quite visible.

Currently, it’s not bothering me and I think that’s a good place to be. To not be at ease in who you are, well, that’s not a nice place to be is it?

But, thinking back the the end of Summer last year and the long run of Autumn/Winner with pins that felt right, helped. That and the genetic good fortune of light hair on my arms. All of that helps me to feel okay about who I am. Sure, it would nice if that pesky leg hair was gone all year, but you can’t always have it all.

Party pins

If there’s a point to this post today, I’d say it’s about finding what works for you and enjoying what you have while you have it. To worry about the future, well, okay Climate Change!, but on a personal level, enjoying the moment or what might be can be good too.

L x

PS: For readers of a nervous disposition, I should point out in the above photo, I was wearing a dress. Please, don’t imagine anything else. Well, unless you want to be put off your food 😁

8 Comments

  1. As always a thought provoking post. I know what you mean, being content with oneself is quite the plateau to reach and it’s always nice to see that in others too. I do like those heels though!

    1. Thanks Joanna. Both the article and the experiences of Shah inspired it. Her story made me smile in happiness at hers and then there was the realisation of a similar story in me.

      The shoes I picked up in a sale about four years ago for a very low price. Quite a lucky find.

  2. Talk about if you have it, flaunt it!
    You present very well Lynn. Great pins, great heels.
    I always wear long trousers, jeans, pants, in male presentation which means keeping legs clear of undergrowth is not a seasonal issue. I consider that a small price even in the height of summer.
    And that is again being happy with the way things are.
    My only concern is that as global warming worsens the cost of bare legs increases, but my response will continue to be, suck it up princess.

    1. Who said: “if you’ve got it, flaunt it and if you don’t, accessorise”?

      TBH, I was somewhat nervous about showing such leg (footballer’s knee?), but in honesty, I think that was fear talking. If someone had done the same at the group, or indeed at a family do, I would not have commented negatively on their choice.

      So, and as the photo shows, I lived in the moment and took a chance to try and accept what I have. My shape is what it is and it won’t change – what can is my self acceptance.

      I’m with you on the long trousers situation in summer. A slight turn up to long troos when teamed with sandals seems to help. Maybe one day it won’t matter to others and us

  3. Does it really matter if a woman has ‘wookie’ legs or if a man has legs as smooth as a babies bottom !

    1. No, it shouldn’t matter, but to some it does. I think that when folk decide – or in cases where a choice is made for them – to change how they appear, if that challenges tradition, there’s an impact from that.

      From my own point of view, my leg situation is complicated by being a parent and a husband. Yes, it’s my body and if I decide to be open about how I prefer to look, that will alter how my family, friends, and colleagues might treat me. That’s absolutely not to say “it’s all them” – a much larger piece is my own fear of upsetting my family or fear of being judged by others. Make of that what you will.

  4. Interesting post Lynn. I feel the same way about growing my hair long, why should I have to conform and keep it short, it’s up to me what I do with my hair. Same with dyeing it too, why can’t I dye my hair if I want to?

    I’m probably in need of a leg shave sometime soon, I’m long overdue. I always feel a little self conscious when I shave my legs especially wearing shorts to the gym and worry that I’m bring attention to myself but shaving them puts me in a happy place.

    Like you say it’s all about enjoying the moment, the things we choose to do work for us, if they make us happy then who cares what anybody else thinks.

    That said, despite everything I’m not quite brave enough to don black nail polish on my fingernails in public just yet There’s still time though.

    Kind Regards

    Lotte x

    PS Nice legs 🙂

    1. Is it back to confirming and traditions in appearance? I remember a friend taking a job a few decades back and her employer were funny about women in trousers. They didn’t stay long. 😉

      I think you can – and should, if you want – do those things around your appearance. There is, of course, knowing that they may affect interactions with others, but I would hope not in a negative way.

      “PS Nice legs”

      Thanks 🙂 Not too bad given its my last few months of the 40s 😉

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