Having had the luxury of an extra week off before Christmas, we’re very much enjoying the second week off. As much as being a grown-up brings certain responsibilities, it does not include homework. Child 2.0 has a few items set and they’re doing their best to get them out of the way
With that in mind, the old phrase school days are the best days of your life hauled itself out of the depths. Okay, maybe for some, but listening to the Ever Lovely Mrs J, a few friends, and my own experience, really, things got a lot better when we were out of it.
So, for anyone currently in school reading this, it does get better and no, school is not the best it gets. Life outside, be that employment, the arts, university, volunteering, or parenthood, brings choice and as such, you can find what you really like doing. That might be obvious to you or it might take years, there’s no rush or prizes for coming first
It’s not that school is awful, I think it’s the lack of choice, a few bad apples, and growing up can be tough (ugh, puberty and mental health). Throw all that in with the stresses of study and, well, it’s not going to be an easy ride. Not to play Misery Top Trumps, I’d add that being LGBTQ+ as at teen adds an extra ‘weight’ to deal with too.
On the other side of it, there’s some amazing teachers in the system and they do make a difference in the time you have with them. There’s a rare few in which as a kid and indeed now as a parent, part of you observes and wonders if you dislike this so much, why stay? But that’s another topic of conversation for another day. However, I will add that it’s often the system of work that causes such behaviour. Listening to friends who’ve taught, it’s not easy. There main issue seems to be paperwork, although a few had choice words about funding and government interference.
So, what if anything can we take from all this? Well, try to focus on the good bits. Enjoy the time with friends, what interests you, and try not to think about the stuff you don’t like. If school is not your bag, try not to mess it up for others and make sure you’ve covered at least the basics of numeracy and literacy. It’s also not your only shot at this education lark.
If you fail your exams, there’s retakes and indeed further education colleagues can help with your A Levels. By luck, I’ve bumped into a few folk who decided to do qualifications after leaving school. It seems they couldn’t quite get it at the time or that their choices didn’t play out as they’d hoped. I would certainly hold my hand up to both of those. There’s people who are much more hands on and they thrive in creative, technical, or mechanical environments.
But, we do what we can and if we can ignore the platitude about school days, maybe we can focus on things have a funny way of working out for the best. You will meet people who get you, your body & mind will settle, and with luck, there will be no double Maths on a Friday afternoon 😉