The other day I was talking with Susie – as much as you can in an email 🙂 – and the topic of being recognised came up. Not from a passing point of view, but on being seen for your other identity.
Thinking on this later, I did wonder if I might be from the same planet as Clark Kent. I mean, we both have secret identities, an extra pair of knickers helps keep your tights up, and we’ve have had to get changed in inconvenient locales. 🙂 I don’t have his physique and the laser vision would certainly be handy for summer BBQs.
All that aside, when I go through the process of getting changed, even though the clothing & padding change my shape, the makeup & hair alter my face; I can still look through all of that and see my regular features. Sometimes the magic happens and the day to day me is more difficult to spot. That’s a real feel good moment. It’s not that I dislike being Richard, it’s more that after going to all that effort, I’d like to see the benefit 🙂
That ‘seeing through it’ seems to be something that other folk at Chams have said about themselves as well. Specifically, in that we see our trans friend as they present, we can’t see Bob instead of through Kate. Yet, with ourselves, we somehow look by the hair, the shape, and all the rest.
I think it’s down to a combination of familiarity of our own features and also wanting to be realistic. Realistic as rooted in the real world, rather than the application of padding, slap, and a wig make us unrecognisable.
Yet for all that, the quick glance in the street or someone passing by in a crowd, maybe that’s enough. That’s assuming the people in the crowd are actually looking, as it seems most folk are caught up in their own little world. I know I often am. 🙂
Perhaps we can take two things from this: firstly, yeah, we may stand out as trans, but not necessarily be spotted for our other selves. Lastly, if our appearance is good enough to wander around as is, what’s stopping us from getting out there?