In the blur of family visits, long dog walks, streaming TV, and irregular mealtimes, the fact that this is the last Friday before the turn of the year – and indeed, decade – has slipped my mind. But last-minute and off the cuff is just how I roll at YATGB. 🙂
The year has been an interesting mix of news – both from a personal, family, and national perspective. I will spare you my views on the political landscape of the UK, as anything I write here is, I feel, unlikely to sway you if you’ve different views, and if your views are similar, it’s going to be an echo chamber. All I will say is that I hope 2020 goes well given all that has gone on over the last 12 months. I am hoping that rights will not be eroded and if they are, we – and I do mean the T community – may need to up our game to make ourselves heard.
Moving on! 🙂 Both Wee Man and Little Miss are now in secondary school (one teen, one tween) and it’s interesting to hear them talk about gender and sexuality in a way that would seem unheard of in my day. I am, again, hoping this freedom to be themselves will allow the next generation to be more accepting of diversity and that includes self-acceptance. The Ever Lovely Mrs J continues her polite and gentle quest in challenging rudeness to LGBTQ+ people and being an open ally but keeping my secret, bless her.
What can I say from a T point of view? This year has been kind to me and also to Chameleons. For Chams, we ran a few training events (here and here) which helped inform, educate, and promote healthy discussion. It also brought in funds to help us keep the attendance rates down and speaking personally, made me feel that we were doing something to help the Trans community. I don’t say that as oneupmanship (oneupwomanship? 🙂 ) more that I feel lucky and indeed honoured to get to talk about such things.
Talking of luck, having the good fortune to be out & about now and again helps make us trans folk part of everyday life. After some dysphoria / mental difficulty in the summer around shorts with hairy legs, I took the plunge and dewookied. Understandably, the Ever Lovely Mrs Jones wasn’t 100% pleased, but by talking we go through things.
While it’s winter, I’m working my way back to a fuzzy state, but I have felt so much better about myself in those long months from September to December. It’s not a euphoric thing, it’s more a normal thing: I just feel okay with how I look and that is a great feeling to just being comfortable in your own body.
Oh, mentioning hair, the lovely folk at TrendCo – Nicola & Steph – have visited a few times this year to the group. At the last visit, I fell upon a wig with human hair. The movement and feel of it are so different from synthetic. I feel very lucky to have it and at quite a saving too.
In closing, I’d like to say a thank you to those who help make Chams work: Val, Nicole, Pat, and Diane. Without those volunteers, the group would not be where it is now. I’d also like to say thanks to Susie for feedback around helping me move and test YATGB on a new blog platform, and for Calie for her continued awesomeness in running T-Central. That and the various features she’s kindly done to help all trans bloggers be seen…. and not just little ol’ me 🙂
Here’s to the new year and a new decade. I hope the future is kind to you and yours.