It’s been said about buses that you wait for ages and then two come along at once. So it seems with training requests at Chameleons. Nothing for a few months and now, there’s three on the go.
Not that I am complaining, I must add. It’s a chance to get out, try and help out would-be allies, and – if we’re lucky – top up the group’s funds a little. Balancing it all with privacy and work is the tricky part. Luckily, Val has offered to help with one of the events, bless her.
I think that education is key when it comes to talking about transgender matters. It’s not just the stuff about terminology – which frankly, confuses me a lot of the time too – but about how to treat a trans person and how you might be able to help them.
With the above in mind, this week there’s been a few articles in the news about LGTBQ+ education in schools. Now, there are some who argue that children should be children and that stories about how people have different relationships can be confusing.
Here’s the thing: you can cure confusion. Spend a bit of time studying the subject, maybe ask a few questions, and what you thought was complex can be unpicked. Plus, there’s no shame in getting things wrong – it’s just an opportunity to learn.
If I look back to my own childhood, I knew I was different from the other kids. Not better or special, just different. Boy or girl? Are they the only choices? 🙂 Perhaps it was (or is) true for some of the other children in my class all those years ago, but if it was, I don’t know.
I do look back – but not with regret – and I wonder, how life might have been different if we’d not had Clause 28, but that we’d listened, discussed, and tried to understood that there a lot of people in the world and not everyone is the same.
When I listen to Wee Man talk about his classmates, the fact that some are in straight or gay relationships is neither here nor there. It’s just an everyday thing for Wee Man’s generation and I think that’s fantastic.
|A photo from the Gender Spectrum Collection.|
Funny, after all the nonsense about trying to hush schools in the 80s on talking about being gay, here we are again in 2019, with another group of people trying to keep the kids from learning.
A hint to parents who think like this: trust me, we’ve already started on our journey. We already know and sometimes, that’s really scary. Maybe instead of saying we’re not ready to hear about gay people and trans folk, maybe we could learn together and just be there for each other? Maybe we don’t have to make up our minds now. Maybe we might think we’re one thing, but maybe we’re not. It’s okay to change, isn’t it? To grow, to think, to try, and maybe, just maybe, to accept and be ourselves.