This week saw Wee Man and I enjoy the last episode of Bodyguard. For those of you yet to enjoy it, there’ll be no spoilers. A big thumbs up for a quality BBC political thriller. Brilliant performances by the cast and great writing too.
It’s no secret (as it’s in the trailer) that one of the lead characters has PTSD. Now, in honesty, I don’t know much about that, but I would say I do know a little about seeking help. We men are not always the best at getting help when we need it, and I’ll include folks on the trans spectrum too. We may not be completely ‘bloke’, but for some of us that’s most of our background and day-to-day culture too.
But, dare I say, getting help may be just what you need. Soldiering on regardless may feel stoic and Very Stiff Upper lip, but – and maybe shock news here – there are no prizes in doing so. Shame really because I think a gift of any sort (well, only the nice type!) is always welcome.
So how does this play into this being a trans blog? Well, I think that blokes – certainly those who are somewhere on the trans spectrum – may have had years of hiding who they are, putting on a mask to blend in, sneaking around like a spy, and that’s before we even get to start talking about dysphoria.
Yes, mental health issues in the trans community – and possibly due to that hidden stress – are slightly higher than for non-trans folk. Not that either group is better or worse; we’re just on slightly different paths. But, regardless of who you are or who you want to be: please don’t put off asking for help. That might be from a friend, your family, your doctor, or other professional. It might not feel like talking about what’s bugging you will help, but, and over time, it will.
If you don’t fancy confiding in your GP or suchlike, a local trans group may well be a good place to start. They may certainly empathise with your situation and I think that no-one (at those with their heart in the right place) is out to recruit or convert you.
Hell, those of us attending; we’re trans-something-or-other and we’ve probably realised that we’ll be in it for the long haul. If you are? Well, that’s up to you. Maybe you will, maybe you won’t. But, if you come to the group, at least you can find out and maybe make some friends along the way. Perhaps, even slightly loopy ones in rose-printed dresses 😉