I’m back from holiday, and a good time was had by all. A good mix of walking, visiting the old (no, not me, you cheeky so-and-so 😉 ), some good food and lots of happy memories.
The funny thing about modern holidays, at least for me, is the impact of technology. Most cottages, and certainly hotels, have WiFi nowadays. If not, it can be surprising, at just how many places have decent mobile broadband. Usually, it’s on tap 24/7, until you’re lost or really need to look something up 😉
Anyhoo, with connectivity being so abundant, I can still check in with T friends, while on holiday. In a small way, it’s a bit like taking your support network with you. I mean, sure, I was in Dad mode for all of the holiday, and realistically, I wouldn’t want it any other way. I can, however, email friends, or see what folk are up to on social media. So it’s not like I have to leave being trans behind 100%
It also means there’s a more than a few moments peace to read, because Little Miss, or Wee Man, will be using their tablets, to watch YouTube (probably Minecraft!) or catch up with their friends. It’s a very different world, to when I was little. Not that we spend all evening glued to the glowing screens. I asked if anyone fancied a game of dominoes and those expensive electronic gadgets, were quickly put down. Kids eh? I’m not sure I’ll ever understand them 🙂
As the evening drew on, and the kids were tucked into bed, I was clicking through Facebook and I took a look at my friends list. I try to stick to the rule, that if I’ve not met you, or we’ve not chatted through email, I won’t accept any requests. In some ways, the blog list (see right), is a bit like that.
|Not always back to Narnia|
Going back to the topic of friends, or at least, Facebook’s definition of them, I noticed a few people who don’t post. Not that there’s any shame In that. After all, there’s more to life than a busy social media feed. But, other than the ‘no posters’, as it were, there are those who’ve disappeared. Not just social media, but from blogs, to social events (Chams or Invasion).
For those who have ‘moved on’ and feel they don’t need the T scene, as it were, that’s great. I mean, if you are full time, do you need the faff of hanging around with trans friends, when you’ve a wider social circle? Answers on a postcard to the usual address…. 🙂
But, the people I’m thinking of, are those who seem to just slip into invisibility. On-line one day, and very much gone the next. I am, somewhat nosey, and I guess, other than hoping these folk are okay, I also wonder, how do they cope? Have they given up, or is it now more the very occasional, rather than the regular foray into being transfabulous? Not that being ‘out-ish’ means you’re okay, but if you drop off the radar, so to speak, have you given up completely?