Did you have a good Easter break? In fact, did you get a break over Easter? Not everyone does these days. Luckily for me, I did. Not that I’m one to gloat. Well, okay, maybe a bit 🙂
The other night – at NottsChams – we had a dress code incident. Which is kinda funny (not funny ho ho) because officially we don’t have a dress code. I appreciate that there is a certain amount of irony in a group of TG folk reporting what is proper attire. 🙂 Heh, proper attire, makes me sound like some school ma’am. 🙂 Now I’m not talking about short skirts or low tops. It’s more – how can I put this tactfully? – ah, b*lls to it – fetish gear.
Y’see, the thing about Chams is that while it’s a transgender support group, pretty much everyone (unless they turn up in bloke mode) makes the effort to look female. I don’t mean twin set and pearls. No, clothes range from casual, office, goth, glamorous, punk(y) to bang on-trend. However, the link between any of those looks is that the wearer has tried to present a female appearance.
This, I feel, leads us into the crux of the problem. If you turn up very early, the previous groups – kids plus parents – may still be about. From a distance, the kids may see a couple of tall or perhaps rather shoulder heavy ladies heading into one of the side doors. It’s another thing to see a bloke in a too-short maid’s outfit in loafers and a pair of stockings. No wig, no make-up. You get the picture.
Daphne and I had a quiet word with the person in question because – and I’ll be honest here – we (the group) do not feel this is what the group is about. Now, I feel a bit bad about telling this chap that he can’t dress like that at Chams, but…. would I want a group of burly guys in maids’ outfits turning up? No. Would I want the group to have to move on because we’ve overstepped the boundaries and upset the other tenants? Again, no. Man, I hate being a clothing fascist. 🙂
I guess this flip side to this is would I go to a fetish nightclub dressed in either jeans + t-shirt or a wrap dress and stillies? No, not really. 🙂
[ Today’s lyric: Fight for your right to party by the Beastie Boys ]